The Eyes have it.

[MyopicJoe]

I was inspired by the "Malo Man" meme floating around on HT. I have a few questions for the ladies. Of course I'd be happy to hear what the guys think too.


Question #1

Women have wider peripheral vision than men. If a man is talking to a woman, he has to break eye contact to check out her body. If a woman is talking to a man, and she's not standing too close, she can look him in the eye and still check out his package...

Women multi-task better than men. If a man is fantasizing about the woman he's talking to, it's obvious he's not completely paying attention to the conversation. A woman can maintain a complex conversation with a man AND imagine him in the latest romance novel she's reading...

So...What say you, ladies? :)


Question #2

(I might get some whack-whacks for this one, so I shall save it for later)

[1stwahine]

Ok...since this is my wedding week, I will once again tell you the story of how I captured my P.K.
"Strangers in the Night"
http://www.auntiepupule.com/blog/index.php?id=962

"Suddenly, one of the gents sang "Snow on Maunakea" and I stood to dance the hula. After I was pau...I sat down. I turned my head and there he was.

A gentlemen. From the very first look ~ I had Butterflies! :o
As I gazed into his eyes, I whispered to him..."What wind blew you in?" I'm not suppose to meet anyone especially now...but I did. He didn't expect it too. We had a lovely evening ~ PK and I.

Ok. Ok. We talked. We danced. He was accepted by my friends in Kekai's. Dey are the hardest to be accepted by. They've seen it ALL. Me and my Life. He asked 'Glenn' about me. He told him everything. I told him to read my Blog. If he is still interested ~ call me. If not ~ it's ok. I understand. ;)

We're not suppose to meet anyway...he told me it was Destiny! :D

It is FAITH."

Auntie Lynn

[MyopicJoe]

Ok...since this is my wedding week..

As I gazed into his eyes

Haha. Nice segue, Auntie ;) You can pounce my posts anytime. The door is unlocked for you.

Thanks for linking your blog post, I didn't catch it before. I didn't realize you were such a party animal!

So, I know he was a gentleman and all, but how quickly did you check out his bod??? :D

[Pua'i Mana'o]

**note to self**

If ever so fortunate as to meet MJ in person, brazenly stare at his package until he whimpers "mamma".

[MyopicJoe]

**note to self**

If ever so fortunate as to meet MJ in person, brazenly stare at his package until he whimpers "mamma".

Hey! Male ego is made of spun glass. Gimme some eye contact please!

:(

[Pua'i Mana'o]

Hey…you the one keep bringing up packages. Never you mind about asking women these kinds of questions!

:p

[MyopicJoe]

Hey…you the one keep bringing up packages. Never you mind about asking women these kinds of questions!

:p

Haha, fair enough :)

Physical attraction is a normal and important part of any relationship (it's just not the most important one). No shame. My questions are all in good fun, but I suppose society allows us guys to be more blatant about this kind of stuff, while brow beating women.

Ok. The ladies no need answer. I'll ask my second question tomorrow and dats when the real whack-whacks can start ;)


(I'm a bit of a rascal, but I try to keep things relatively polite. If anyone thinks I'm going too far, then send me a PM and I'll consider what you have to say)

[Peshkwe]

At first sight it's defiantly the eyes that do it for me first. Then it's the body and I'm not super fussy about the fitness factor. I mean Malo Man is nice to look at...but there's this niggling itch at the corner of my mind saying he'd be way more interested how he looked doing it than in the doing it.

As long as the guy looks like he at least puts an effort to keeping himself healthy and clean, he can be thin or thick, lean or bulked.

Packages? Tie a ribbon round the package, I like prezzies of all sizes.

[Adri]

Wow, I need to work on my peripheral vision and multi-tasking *g*

I agree with Peshkwe that it detracts (for me) from a guy's attractiveness if I think he is vain.

[cynsaligia]

...there's this niggling itch at the corner of my mind saying he'd be way more interested how he looked doing it than in the doing it.

I agree with Peshkwe that it detracts (for me) from a guy's attractiveness if I think he is vain.

hear, hear! what a coincidence--this morning, i saw a picture of eric that was taken from his modeling days a decade ago. in this photo, he's got the chiseled cheek & jawline, the bricks, and other hard lumps in all the right places, like his arms. not a hair on his head is out of place. he's also got that "anywhere but here," coolly aloof facial expression (think of any cologne ad & you'll understand what i mean). i know that pic embodies all that we're supposed to hold as being desirable in a man, but the eric in that pic is so NOT who i'd ever be attracted to. he looks too into himself and his hotness.

thankfully, that's only a picture. eric didn't believe me when i told him so this morning, but i think that he's more gorgeous now. his body might be a bit softer, the hair's more rumpled than styled, and the chiseled cheeks & jawline might have gotten a little rounded, but he's just so darned sexy now in a way that picture just does not capture. :)

[Leo Lakio]

Packages? Tie a ribbon round the package, I like prezzies of all sizes.You need to read the lyrics to Mike Cross' hilarious folk-song, "The Scotsman (http://www.thebards.net/music/lyrics/The_Scotsman.shtml)."

[Peshkwe]

You need to read the lyrics to Mike Cross' hilarious folk-song, "The Scotsman (http://www.thebards.net/music/lyrics/The_Scotsman.shtml)."


Ummm...

I'm a Maxwell ;)

[Leo Lakio]

Ummm...
I'm a Maxwell ;)Aye? Clan Wallace here.

[timkona]

Or this hilarious Irish folk song http://unitedireland.tripod.com/id348.html

[Peshkwe]

Have you done much genealogy? Just to get totally off topic here...:cool:

{edit} Hah! Got the Murphys floating around too.

[MyopicJoe]

Just to get totally off topic here...:cool:

Heh, no biggie, as long as people are having fun :)

[turtlegirl]

Those Irish songs were pretty funny!!!

So, c'mon Myopic, make with the second question!

[MyopicJoe]

So, c'mon Myopic, make with the second question!

Oh I just bet you have your baseball bat primed and ready to go ;)

[lavagal]

Heh, no biggie, as long as people are having fun :)


Wha? The package?

[MyopicJoe]

Wha? The package?

LMFAO

Nice one, Lavagal xD

[turtlegirl]

Oh I just bet you have your baseball bat primed and ready to go ;)

No, no! I'm a very nice girl...really!!

So c'mon!! Se-cond! Ques-tion! Se-cond! Ques-tion!

[Peshkwe]

Well I'm not...I'm a freak.

C'mon.... Give it up Joe!

[kani-lehua]

F A I T H

"I know not everybody has got a body like me,
but i gotta think twice, before i give my heart away,
and i know all the games you play,
cuz i play them too,
oh but i need some time off from that emotion,
time to pick my heart up off the floor,
but that love comes down without devotion,
well it takes a strong man baby,
but i'm showin' you that door,
i gotta have faith

gotta have faith,
gotta have faith,
gotta have faith!

baby, i know you're askin' me to stay,
say please please please don't go away cuz you're givin' me the blues,
baby, your mind made all the words you say,
can't help but think of yesterday and another who tied me down to the lover boy rules,
before this river becomes an ocean, before you pick my heart up off the floor,
well that love comes down without devotion,
well it takes a strong man baby,
but i'm showin' you that door,
i gotta have faith

gotta have faith,
gotta have faith,
gotta have faith!
get tha f*** up!!!

i gotta have faith,
i gotta have faith,
i gotta have faith,
i gotta have faith!
faith! ahhhh faith!! ahhhhh!!!!"

auntie, i just love that song, "snow of maunakea". how could pk not fall in love with you at that very moment as you gracefully danced to his singing?! he gotta good look at your bod swaying to the music. that's got to be one of my favs. hoota!

:p

[MyopicJoe]

Question #2


Pupil dilation is an involuntary response to seeing something we find attractive. This response is subconsciously detected by those around us, who respond positively to it. People with light colored eyes are perceived as more attractive and trustworthy, because it is easier for us to see their pupils dilate. Romantic restaurants use dim lighting to give couples bedroom eyes, making them feel more in love. Poker players hide behind sun glasses, to conceal their reaction to picking up a strong hand.

For some reason women detect pupil dilation faster than men. Due perhaps to biology. Perhaps social conditioning.

Not surprisingly, pupil dilation in men is strongest when they are shown pictures of beautiful, naked women. When a man checks out every woman in view, he's merely following his instincts. For this he is called a "pig".

Pictures of handsome, naked men only rank second for a woman. So what, pray tell, tickles her eye the most? Pictures of mothers holding their babies. Women check out babies. Men check out babes.

But when a woman fawns over another woman's baby, she's not called a "mindless breeder". Oh no. She's encouraged to follow her instincts and is often told, "You should have a baby too!"

So for the sake of fairness, the next time a man checks out a sexy babe, women should encourage him with, "You should tap that!"

What say you, ladies?

[sinjin]

"Oh, you must have been a beautiful baby, 'cause baby look at you now."

[1stwahine]

F A I T H

"I know not everybody has got a body like me,
but i gotta think twice, before i give my heart away,
and i know all the games you play,
cuz i play them too,

i gotta have faith,

auntie, i just love that song, "snow of maunakea". how could pk not fall in love with you at that very moment as you gracefully danced to his singing?! he gotta good look at your bod swaying to the music. that's got to be one of my favs. hoota!:p

heheheh

I'll be dancing it on Sunday.;)

Auntie Lynn

[kani-lehua]

Question #2

Not surprisingly, pupil dilation in men is strongest when they are shown pictures of beautiful, naked women. When a man checks out every woman in view, he's merely following his instincts. For this he is called a "pig".


So for the sake of fairness, the next time a man checks out a sexy babe, women should encourage him with, "You should tap that!"

What say you, ladies?

http://i295.photobucket.com/albums/mm154/MsMimi03/thJLuvPiggesBlinkie.gif


oink.

snort.

:p

[Leo Lakio]

People with light colored eyes are perceived as more attractive and trustworthy, because it is easier for us to see their pupils dilate.Interesting. I find dark eyes more attractive - perhaps it's because they resemble dilated pupils?
So for the sake of fairness, the next time a man checks out a sexy babe, women should encourage him with, "You should tap that!"Lucky for me, not only does the Alpha Female appreciate attractive characteristics in both genders, she and I will often point out beautiful women to each other, by the use of a simple code-word: "Yow."

[turtlegirl]

But when a woman fawns over another woman's baby, she's not called a "mindless breeder". Oh no. She's encouraged to follow her instincts and is often told, "You should have a baby too!"

So for the sake of fairness, the next time a man checks out a sexy babe, women should encourage him with, "You should tap that!"

What say you, ladies?

Both me and the BF respond, mentally at least, with "mindless breeder".

Now, this second part, if I was with a random male friend, I'd be all like "you should tap that!". With my bf? I'm like, "don't you be thinking about tapping that!". :)

[MyopicJoe]

I'll be dancing it on Sunday.

The world will be a better place on Sunday :)


http://i295.photobucket.com/albums/mm154/MsMimi03/thJLuvPiggesBlinkie.gif

lol

an enlightened woman!


Interesting. I find dark eyes more attractive - perhaps it's because they resemble dilated pupils?

That sounds reasonable. I've wondered about that too, as I have brown eyes, and though my wife has blue they're rather dark. I was smitten with her when I first saw her, and I was dating her friend at the time!


Lucky for me, not only does the Alpha Female appreciate attractive characteristics in both genders, she and I will often point out beautiful women to each other, by the use of a simple code-word: "Yow."That's awesome, Leo :) I hear the important thing is that the man's appreciation for other women is shared with his wife (and vice versa), instead of being a secretive hidden thing. Though it sounds a bit counter intuitive, but it can bring couples closer together by having a shared secret/fantasy.

Of course it depends on whether it suits their personalities. If either one is uncomfortable with it, then it shouldn't be forced.

[MyopicJoe]

With my bf? I'm like, "don't you be thinking about tapping that!". :)

Haha, fair enough. Look, but no touch!

My friend's husband has told her: "I don't care where you whet your appetite, as long as you come home for dinner."

[Leo Lakio]

I hear the important thing is that the man's appreciation for other women is shared with his wife (and vice versa), instead of being a secretive hidden thing. Though it sounds a bit counter intuitive, but it can bring couples closer together by having a shared secret/fantasy.A big part of it is the trust we have in each other - secure knowledge that there will be no straying outside the relationship (which recently hit the 13-year mark). Our way of handling it is such that, rather than "threatening" each other with a "don't you go there"-type of message, instead we like to say (about anyone else who catches our eye) "he/she can't have you."

[MyopicJoe]

(which recently hit the 13-year mark).

Nice. You two are a few years ahead of us :)


Our way of handling it is such that, rather than "threatening" each other with a "don't you go there"-type of message, instead we like to say (about anyone else who catches our eye) "he/she can't have you."

So you guys aren't accusatory about it. Sounds like a gentle nudge.


On another note, I wonder if there are similarities between pupil dilation and aperture size in photography.

If you take a photo of a person, while using a wide open aperture, the image of the person is in sharp focus while the background is fuzzy. If the aperture is narrow, the foreground and background are both in focus.

So when you're looking lovingly at your significant other, and you have that "the world around us disappears" feeling, I wonder if part of that is because your pupils are dilated and the background is fuzzy.

And when you're furious at people, say just before you get into a fight, your pupils narrow into pinholes. I wonder if that serves to bring everything in view into focus. Useful for seeing what your attackers are holding in their hands, looking for something lying around to use as a weapon, or scouting out avenues of escape.

Hmm.

[kani-lehua]

"...instead of focusing on the trees, see the forest. how refreshing! with thiss view, life looks abundant and thick with mysteries that beg to be discovered."

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