Will you pass down what your parents said to you?

[manoasurfer123]

Any stories out there that you are sure you will never pass down to your kids? Or a similar equivalent?

Mine would be something like...

My Parents would tell me back in the days...

"Son, When I was growing up... I used to have to walk 4 miles through the snow to get to school"

Now I tell my child...

"Son, I have to drive 4 miles through honolulu traffic to get to work"

[tutusue]

Any stories out there that you are sure you will never pass down to your kids? Or a similar equivalent?"
"...because I said so."

I always resented hearing that when I was a kid so I never said that to my kids when they asked, "Why?"! I always gave them a reason. That's how children learn. Of course, that was over 30 years ago. Who knows, nowadays when a child asks "Why?" I suppose they just as often hear, "Google it."! :D

[manoasurfer123]

"...because I said so."

I always resented hearing that when I was a kid so I never said that to my kids when they asked, "Why?"! I always gave them a reason. That's how children learn. Of course, that was over 30 years ago. Who knows, nowadays when a child asks "Why?" I suppose they just as often hear, "Google it."! :D
ooohhh ouch!!!!

The dreadful... "Because I said so..."

I friggin still hear it!!!!!!

[GypsyLika]

My Fahdah use to eda say "pio da light" or "kill da light." When he said kill da light, I would stand next to da light switch and act like I was stabbing it to death. (Kinda like da scene from Psycho :D ) Anyway I got caught couple of times and got lickens for acking la dat. :rolleyes: I can laugh now. Wasn't funny wen I got busted.

Fast forward to I'm a Mom. I use to say (& still do) "Trow da dishes in da sink!" And my smartass kids would pick up da dishes and ack like dey going actually trowem' in da sink from across da kitchen. I would give dem stink eye and dey would laugh, "you said THROW!" They'd walk up to the sink and make sudden moves like they going really throw the dishes in the sink.

Anyways I've always equated me killing da light wit dem trowing da dishes! But dey neva get lickings. Although I've pinched a few butts & arms. :)

[Pua'i Mana'o]

"...because I said so."

I always resented hearing that when I was a kid so I never said that to my kids when they asked, "Why?"! I always gave them a reason. That's how children learn. Of course, that was over 30 years ago. Who knows, nowadays when a child asks "Why?" I suppose they just as often hear, "Google it."! :D


bwahaha! I am *soooo* gonna add that to the lexicon. ;)

[alohabear]

I mom always said "I hope you get one kid 10times worse than you" I siad that to my son too :D

[oggboy]

Yeah, I can still remember that saying, I`m sure we all when hear it!!! YOU JUST WAIT TILL YOU GET YOUR OWN KID`S, DENN YOU GOIN SEE!!!
REMEMBER THAT???? :rolleyes: :rolleyes:

[Leo Lakio]

ME: You know, it's times like this that I wish I had listened to what my father used to say.

YOU: Oh? What did he say?

ME: I don't know; I wasn't listening.

:p

[GypsyLika]

Yeah, I can still remember that saying, I`m sure we all when hear it!!! YOU JUST WAIT TILL YOU GET YOUR OWN KID`S, DENN YOU GOIN SEE!!!
REMEMBER THAT???? :rolleyes: :rolleyes:


Oooooh da all mighty generational family curse ~ Yes ~ I've since passed it on. I told my kids "yeah you think you so BAD, wait till you have kids." I think I must have scared da kaka outta my kids because they ain't made no babies, yet! (or that I no of) :D :rolleyes:

[adrian]

"wear gloves before doing that"; "don't touch that"; "next time, listen before you do that"

Of course, that was all from my dad because me and my brothers helpped him with construction-related stuff, but if you think about, those same principles can apply to normal life. :D

[1stwahine]

Our #1 House rule for Family and friends...
Eat anthing you want...just don't waste! :D

Auntie Lynn

[stumphurple]

i teach my kids to

1. love the lord your god and your neighbor as yourself

2. love your country, the greatest in the whole world, with unfailing devotion to freedom and undying hatred for all enemies and traitors of america

3. keep your friends close, keep your enemies closer and keep your wallet closest

4. live for immortality

5. conquest is your birthright and supremacy is your destiny

[kimo55]

Admin? Mods? mel? helen? pzarq?! anyone??

[Menehune Man]

What? He just said what He's passing down. A bit strong in his way, but aren't we all eh?

[Peshkwe]

Things I will pass down, (in no real particular order):

1 - Listen first - speak later, listening with open ears and a thoughtful mind is more important than speaking quickly

2 - Question authority, just because a person is in a position of authority doesn't mean they are always correct

3 - Research you position thoroughly before presenting it, be prepared to defend yourself and your position

4 - Not everyone deserves your respect, but always respect the power they may hold over you.

5 - Do not follow blindly, the person you follow may be far blinder than you are

6 - Think for yourself, opinions are like belly buttons, everyone has one and each one is different in it's own way

7 - Listen to your gut, if something feels wrong to you step back and check it out from a safe distance whether it's physical, emotional or social

8 - The only thing you can truely control is yourself, it's also the hardest thing to control, work at it every day

9 - Do not be afraid of either defense nor retreat, defend yourself if the situation is defensable if it's not, retreat and regroup until you can defend later if at all possible

10 - Be polite but never mistake politeness for weakness

11 - Be like free flowing water, a placidly rolling exterior can work for you and fool your enemies...until a wave smacks em upside the head... and patient persistan movement in any learning situation over time will conquer even the hardest lesson, a trickle of constant moving water can erode the hardest rock over time. NEVER allow your mind to stagnate unless you really LIKE green and slimey.

[Leo Lakio]

i teach my kids to

1. love the lord your god and your neighbor as yourself

2. love your country, the greatest in the whole world, with unfailing devotion to freedom and undying hatred for all enemies and traitors of america

3. keep your friends close, keep your enemies closer and keep your wallet closest

4. live for immortality

5. conquest is your birthright and supremacy is your destiny

Don't forget #6. watch and worship fox news channel, for they are the true keepers of the message ;)

[Miulang]

Don't forget #6. watch and worship fox news channel, for they are the true keepers of the message ;)

Um, that's "Faux" news, which I watch just for giggles every now and then (know thine enemies) :rolleyes:

Miulang

[Leo Lakio]

(know thine enemies) :rolleyes:
Stumphurple says to keep them close! "Fairly unbalanced."

[Lei K]

Don't forget #6. watch and worship fox news channel, for they are the true keepers of the message ;)

*laughing*

[admin]

Please stay on topic, and don't taunt the newbies (too much). At least in this case, stumphurple was at least answering the original question.

[stumphurple]

eh no worries admin i can take one joke.

nah actually my kids and i listen to npr during commutes. listening to the libs makes them think harder about their own ideas. i want my kids to know the other side so that their ideology doesnt collapse at the first breath of opposition.

[Leo Lakio]

actually my kids and i listen to npr during commutes... i want my kids to know the other side so that their ideology doesnt collapse at the first breath of opposition.
That's the wisest statement you've made since rampaging onto this forum; I completely agree that you should expose children to viewpoints other than what they will get in their home; it will help them to make up their own minds about the world.

And since, over time, kids generally reject the perspectives of their parents anyway, there's hope for your children yet.

[pzarquon]

Getting somewhat back on topic...

On some issues, I'm glad that our kids will definitely hear more than one side of any issue. One parent is a Catholic, the other an atheist. Our opinions differ on everything from the death penalty to gun control. As they get older (they're too young to be too concerned about these issues now!), I'm hoping for some lively debates at the dinner table -- although I also know, usually, that politics and family never mix well.

As we ease them into the "diversity of viewpoints" world, though, there are compromises. We're holding firm to the absolute of Santa (though I suspect our eldest is only humoring us now), for example. And we're trying to raise our kids Catholic... as I always say, "At least they have a faith they can reject or rebel against later." :)

As soon as they're old enough to question and doubt, or even affirm and strengthen, their faith, I'll encourage them to do it.

[Menehune Man]

I learned alot from my parents. Some things I embrace and some things that I hope I never do or say. I tried my best to live the good things for my kids to see and leave the negative talk I received out of the picture. So basically "No" I didn't pass down what my parents said to me.

[craigwatanabe]

I tell my kids to get their degree! I don't care if it's Basketweaving 101 but in today's world a high school diploma just isn't enough if you want to make the big bucks. I also tell them to just listen to me and I set them on the path to prosperity. But like all teenagers, dey no listen...eh wat dat white wire coming outta da ear...friggin Ipods no wonder dey stay deaf!!

A parent's greatest revenge is spoiling the grandkids. Yeah I'll watch the grandkids tonight...in bed by 8pm no problem go have fun.

Okay kids it's 9pm, mom and dad going pick you guys up in 30-minutes, who wants a Pepsi! :D

When my older brother became a proud daddy, he told my dad not to send gifts that made noise and took batteries. Well the next year he sent him a toy fire truck with working siren and water pump, and a box of rechargable batteries and a charger.

And finally, it took being a parent to fully realize this statement: This is going to hurt me more than it's gonna hurt you!

Good night see ya in the morning, it's late (3am) and da kids are fast asleep.

zzzzzzz

[kimo55]

"you can pick yer friends. and you can pick yer nose.
But ya CAIN'T pick yer friend's nose."

[Leo Lakio]

"you can pick yer friends. and you can pick yer nose.
But ya CAIN'T pick yer friend's nose."
...and you can't wipe your friends on the couch.
ewwwwww!!! :eek:

[kimo55]

my freinds are nice, they are good. they are yummy!

[tutusue]

[...]A parent's greatest revenge is spoiling the grandkids. Yeah I'll watch the grandkids tonight...in bed by 8pm no problem go have fun.

Okay kids it's 9pm, mom and dad going pick you guys up in 30-minutes, who wants a Pepsi! :D [...]
Yo! Craig? Will you be MY grampa? Puhleeeeeeeze! :D

[craigwatanabe]

"you can pick yer friends. and you can pick yer nose.
But ya CAIN'T pick yer friend's nose."

In the words of George Carlin: You can prick your finger...but NEVER finger your prick! :eek:

[Lisheous]

Well, yes, sort of, I have. When I was growing up my father was so strict and so overly protective of all my brothers and sisters, six of us and I have six kids now.

The answer was always "no, you cannot go". I couldn't go out to play, no phone calls or have friends come over to da house. No dances, no going to the movies, no no no! I didn't have any freedom, as far as going out to play. I was sad and cried all the time, I had to stay in the house, while I watch my friends play and have a good time outside my bedroom window.

I left home at the age of 29, I'm 50 now. My dad did not want any of us to move out when we became adults and we did not have his blessings when we left home. He always wanted us home with him all the time.

Amyway, when it comes to my kids, I am the same way, except they can play with their friends, but they are not to go over anybody's houses. They're friends are welcome to play at my house and that's about it. I don't feel right when they're away from home, or at somebody's house. Something could happen to them and of course I'd blame myself. So I guess my father felt the same way too. I need to keep an eye on them at all times, it's so dangerous these days out in the streets, you never know what can happen.

They have a computer, lots of computer games and a basketball goal, TV and a dvd/vcr player in there rooms, they're allowed to play outside as long as they don't leave the yard. I say "no" alot of times and I'm glad it doesn't bother my kids as much as it bothered me growing up. THey're alot more happier than I was. At least they have lots of things to keep them busy, back in my days, there wasn't. My dad never explained why "no" was always the answer, but I can see why from my point of view as a parent. As parents we want to love our children and protected them, so I guess it was a good thing.

Now that we're all grown and have our own families, we are all close with my parents and keep in touch always.

Will you pass down what your parents said to you? Yes, in a loving and caring way.
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[manoasurfer123]

Well, yes, sort of, I have. When I was growing up my father was so strict and so overly protective of all my brothers and sisters, six of us and I have six kids now.

The answer was always "no, you cannot go". I couldn't go out to play, no phone calls or have friends come over to da house. No dances, no going to the movies, no no no! I didn't have any freedom, as far as going out to play. I was sad and cried all the time, I had to stay in the house, while I watch my friends play and have a good time outside my bedroom window.

I left home at the age of 29, I'm 50 now. My dad did not want any of us to move out when we became adults and we did not have his blessings when we left home. He always wanted us home with him all the time.

Amyway, when it comes to my kids, I am the same way, except they can play with their friends, but they are not to go over anybody's houses. They're friends are welcome to play at my house and that's about it. I don't feel right when they're away from home, or at somebody's house. Something could happen to them and of course I'd blame myself. So I guess my father felt the same way too. I need to keep an eye on them at all times, it's so dangerous these days out in the streets, you never know what can happen.

They have a computer, lots of computer games and a basketball goal, TV and a dvd/vcr player in there rooms, they're allowed to play outside as long as they don't leave the yard. I say "no" alot of times and I'm glad it doesn't bother my kids as much as it bothered me growing up. THey're alot more happier than I was. At least they have lots of things to keep them busy, back in my days, there wasn't. My dad never explained why "no" was always the answer, but I can see why from my point of view as a parent. As parents we want to love our children and protected them, so I guess it was a good thing.

Now that we're all grown and have our own families, we are all close with my parents and keep in touch always.

Will you pass down what your parents said to you? Yes, in a loving and caring way.
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"I left home at the age of 29, I'm 50 now"

Come on now... you know you were pushed out of the nest!!!

[manoasurfer123]

I saw a Mother and her child at Foodland today....the mother was explaining coupons to her daughter... and when it came to check-out time... most of the coupons she was trying to use were expired.

The mother got frustrated and started to get irritated.... she asked the daughter if Daddy had played with the coupons.

The daughters reply was... "how come???? Did Daddy "SET YOU UP?""""

The mother said ... "yeah Daddy "SET" mommy up!!!!!"



I'm trying to remember what the 80's equivalent was to this?

Something like "passing the buck?"

[Miulang]

And we wonder why there's no accountability or willingess to accept responsibility in our society! Because it's always easier to blame the other guy! :rolleyes:

Miulang

[smoot]

I'm not planning to have kids so I think my parent's wisdom will have to flow through my nieces and nephews. Maybe I'll feel differently when I get older, but I'm 26 and don't think I'm ready to have kids.

[Da Rolling Eye]

I'd gladly pass on what Dad told me if only I could remember them. They always came during lectures. :rolleyes: You know, in one out da uddah. ;) Either that or the tone of voice and language is questionable for repeating to a 6 yr. old girlie girl. ;)

With our Melanie, I have to make up my own. She talks so much, she gets to the point of talking just to make noise. I gotta keep telling her, "It's okay to stop talking if you don't have anything to say. If you keep talking just to talk, you going end up saying something you're going to regret."...and sure enough, she'll say something insulting to a waitress and I gotta call on.....Da Magic Pinch. Mel is so funny, she'll jump off her seat about 4 feet and give croc tears. The waitress will say, "Oh, that's alright honey." Then Mel will give me side eye. :)

[Da Rolling Eye]

Smoot, das okay. Go play around so mo, go play. I'm fifty $)(&$^&*) with a 6 yr. old. A lot of times I think I'm just too old fo dis. Just don't wait too long. :D

[oggboy]

Remember the other tune.....
When I was growing up, I had to do this and that and blah,blah, blah!!!!
NO WATT! STILL WEN WORK ON MY KIDS...
I WANDA IF DAY GOIN USE DA HAND ME DOWN SAYING?????
CAN!!!/CAN???

OGGBOY :rolleyes:

[Adri]

Any stories out there that you are sure you will never pass down to your kids? Or a similar equivalent?

I can't think of any that I would never pass down. I didn't get to really know 3 out of 4 of my grandparents so I really value the things that my parents passed down to me from their parents, especially the ones I didn't get to really know. Generally, the things my parents passed down to me were supportive or helpful. Like if my grandmother (who had a hard life) was having a bad day, she would say to drink the good plantation water and know that tomorrow will come. It's a little hard to drink good plantation water for most of us these days but my mom still says that sometimes.

[manoasurfer123]

I just caught myself telling my son... "you gonna get lickings!"

[blueyecicle]

There is not one thing I will ever pass down. No words, no nothing! EVER...I have to be careful not to in fact. I catch myself falling into that odl trap andI have to beware of mysef.

[808shooter]

There are only the two of you in the entire world that are brothers. You need to always look out for each other and take care of each other. Only your family will be there for you no matter what.
or something like that. It really stuck. I've never moved away, always stayed close to home and felt as though I need to look out for my little bro... and my mom.

I have no regrets and live a pretty nice life. My mom and brother are also in pretty good shape as well.

I'm passing that on to my daughters. The importance of family part not the heavy obligation part.