Parents today...

[Miulang]

You gotta wonder where some parents learned how to be parents (http://www.cnn.com/2006/US/01/21/springer.homealone.ap/index.html):

"...A woman got a 30-day jail sentence for leaving her three young children home alone for several hours [until after midnight! :eek: ], while she and her boyfriend attended a videotaping of "The Jerry Springer Show."

Shannon Cook, 25, pleaded guilty earlier this week to misdemeanor child endangerment. She also was placed on probation for a year...."

To top it all off, her kids were shipped off to foster homes. It's kinda sad to think there are parents who are neglecting children who have no problems hatching kids, when there are so many loving, qualified couples who have to spend thousands of dollars on infertility treatments to have children.

Miulang

[kupomog]

...I didn't even know they still had The Jerry Springer Show.

[Menehune Man]

Something I've noticed about a lot of parents lately is....

That when they visit a friends place bringing their child(ren) with them, that they don't have any toys or books or anything to entertain the child(ren). The parents brought the essentuals, but if the friend's home doesn't normally have children residing there, what's the kid to do? If the child is well behaved he/she won't get into (much) trouble, but will be bored. If not well behaved, then they're into everything they shouldn't be and getting yelled at. Bummer. When my daughter was small I always had something with us for her to do along with being involved in the event. Just something I've noticed a few times lately.

[craigwatanabe]

That's why we don't visit friends too much but rather invite them over. And yeah we got plenty of DVD's and video games to keep the kids happy while the adults talk story.

[1stwahine]

Instead of starting a new thread, I think my post would would fit rather nicely here. ;)

My grandson turned a year old last month. My daughter and son-inlaw decides to wean him off from the bottle. I forget when I did the same for my three children.

Everything is fine. Antonio seems strong and understands that he needs to drink his milk and juice from the training cup from now on. Oh! Oh! Wrong! :eek: He gets fussy and cries ~ my heart can't take it. I gave in.

I hurriedly get a bottle that I stashed. I give him. Daughter walks in ~ Antonio and I get caught in the act. Milk is already gone. heheheh

Daughter is fuming. Who wrong? :o

What is the age to wean nowdays? Am I suppose to let my grandson suffer? I think not! :(

Your thoughts on this sad and horrible situation that I find myself in.

Gramma Lynn

Parents today...mean? hahahaha

[craigwatanabe]

One year old is okay on the bottle. By age 2 you really should consider giving him a sippy cup or similar.

You can actually bypass the sippy cup and go directly to sipping out of a cup by giving your grandchild small sips of water. Be aware though that if they take large sips they will spit it out and think it's fun (it's just a phase).

My youngest is just over 2-years old and I don't have a problem with him using a bottle. Just don't put him to sleep with one as the tooth decay issue will arise. Oh and since I've mentioned teeth, at 2 is a good time to teach the child how to brush their teeth.

[1stwahine]

One year old is okay on the bottle. By age 2 you really should consider giving him a sippy cup or similar.

You can actually bypass the sippy cup and go directly to sipping out of a cup by giving your grandchild small sips of water. Be aware though that if they take large sips they will spit it out and think it's fun (it's just a phase).

My youngest is just over 2-years old and I don't have a problem with him using a bottle. Just don't put him to sleep with one as the tooth decay issue will arise. Oh and since I've mentioned teeth, at 2 is a good time to teach the child how to brush their teeth.

Thank you Craig! That's exactly what I thought too. Teaching a one year old is too young in my books. I know I should butt out in how they intend to raise Antonio...however, I am the one watching him Full time, M-F from 7:00 a.m. - 5:30 p.m. sometimes a bit later. Most weekends too. Of course for LOVE! :D

I believe I have a right in this. :confused:

Autnie Lynn

[alohabear]

I think that the problem with parents today is that if they have sons they are making them to wimpy. The boys nowdays are all taught to be "sensitive", so sensitive that the girls are stronger than them. they are taught that it's ok to cry and show weakness.
Sure , nobody wants a bully ... but all my son does play video games and I have more(playground) battle scars on my hand than he has on his whole body. I am speaking of kids who never had a stub toe or bloody nose or skinned knee by age 12.

[craigwatanabe]

There's nothing wrong to having sensitive boys. I think this world could use a less amount of testosterone governing the playgrounds anyway.

My dad was an athlete and he was bent on making me one too so as I grew up he made me play everything he did from basketball to baseball. I hated going to practice and the games not because I hated the game but because my dad forced me to engage in sporting activity. I sucked in baseball but excelled in basketball (taking the district champs for our age level).

My dad never came to the practices or the games to see me play ball and it wasn't until just a couple of weeks ago, some 34-years later when my dad and I were talking about sports that I told him, "By the way Dad, remember back in 1972 when I played for the YMCA that we took the district championship?"

He looked surprized and when he asked how come he didn't know? I told him I took my trophy and tossed it in the garbage because I never wanted to be reminded about what that trophy represented. To this day I never display any of my achievements in life. Even my ribbons from my military days.

So if your kid is a sensitive one you shouldn't try to cover that up. Being sensitive is a good thing in a person. It makes you compassionate to the needs of others instead of arrogant or ignorant. Let the child be and encourage the good within them.

[1stwahine]

Craig, My hats off to you. So much wise words in various topics. This one too. My only son from birth was "destined" to be like his father...so they said. A Professional Boxing Champion. I didn't have it. No how, no way.

He became what he wanted. He pursued his own dreams in Life and did well. He too has earned many trophys, medal, ribbons and certificates that fill my Hale. He has his own place of residence -- none are displayed there. I have his Medal which was given to him upon his return from Iraq. He goes about his bussiness doing what he loves most without having any fanfare.

My son ~ the Hero is a simple, caring and sensitive man. My son ~ the Hero still can kick BUTT! My son ~ the Hero is a MAN! :D

Auntie Lynn

btw: I lost. No bottles for Antonio. :(
http://i51.photobucket.com/albums/f358/1stwahine/Lynn_thumb_754097776481095d78m.jpg

[Pua'i Mana'o]

I didn't wean my eldest off until 2 and she had milk teeth (eeek! silver front teeth that made me look like a negligent mother!) By the time I had the other kids, I was sure to wean them right around their first birthday. Yes, there was more cuddle time/back patting to get them to sleep, but they at least had their own pearly whites when they attended preschool!

[craigwatanabe]

My 2-year old still uses the bottle but doesn't have milk teeth. After six of them and all with excellent teeth I can attest that there isn't a problem with a toddler still using a bottle.

http://img211.imageshack.us/img211/6937/jesse001a1is.th.jpg (http://img211.imageshack.us/my.php?image=jesse001a1is.jpg)

[Pua'i Mana'o]

My 2-year old still uses the bottle but doesn't have milk teeth. After six of them and all with excellent teeth I can attest that there isn't a problem with a toddler still using a bottle.

http://img211.imageshack.us/img211/6937/jesse001a1is.th.jpg (http://img211.imageshack.us/my.php?image=jesse001a1is.jpg)

that runs counter to the advice of my ped dentist. However, genetics plays a stronger role than we realize (although keep using that floridated toothypaste and floss regularly!) and your kids might have just been blessed with good genes!

Da lucky buggahs!

[craigwatanabe]

What did you put in the bottle? I don't put milk in my 2-year old's bottle. There are formulas for toddlers ages 1-2. It's mostly a soy-based formula enriched with vitamins and other nutrients.

He eats solid food for breakfast, lunch and dinner. The bottle is more of a pacifier when we are on extended drives in the car (on the Big Island that can mean everyday) or after his harrowing experiences taking a bath. Funny though he loves sitting in that 3-gallon bucket of cold water but he hates a nice warm shower with daddy.

[1stwahine]

What did you put in the bottle? I don't put milk in my 2-year old's bottle. There are formulas for toddlers ages 1-2. It's mostly a soy-based formula enriched with vitamins and other nutrients.

He eats solid food for breakfast, lunch and dinner. The bottle is more of a pacifier when we are on extended drives in the car (on the Big Island that can mean everyday) or after his harrowing experiences taking a bath. Funny though he loves sitting in that 3-gallon bucket of cold water but he hates a nice warm shower with daddy.

His pediatrician took him off Formula last month and said to start on milk. Hence, the weaning. :( I should go whack whack the "sucker!" :eek:

Antonio is asleep. We had a BIG LUNCH ~ his opu is satisfied for now. He eats everything and anything we eat. He enjoys raw tomato, carrots, & fruits! Oh! Mashed potatoe and gravy is his favorite!!! Squid Lu'au, Beef Stew, Chicken Lu'au, Chicken Longrice, Chicken Papaya, etc. etc. etc. the kid can eat!

...but he still misses his bottle! :p
http://i51.photobucket.com/albums/f358/1stwahine/Lynn_thumb_754097776481095d78m.jpg

Auntie Lynn

[manoasurfer123]

Thank you Craig! That's exactly what I thought too. Teaching a one year old is too young in my books. I know I should butt out in how they intend to raise Antonio...however, I am the one watching him Full time, M-F from 7:00 a.m. - 5:30 p.m. sometimes a bit later. Most weekends too. Of course for LOVE! :D

I believe I have a right in this. :confused:

Autnie Lynn
Auntie too each there own...

My son is only 18 months... he was off the bottle at/about 9 months (using the sippy cup) He still on occassion wants Mommy's Nene...but he wont even touch a bottle now.

[1stwahine]

Auntie too each there own...


manoasurfer123, You are absolutely right! It's about time ~ I make my own schedule of doing things too. I'm gonna travel more!!!!! ;)

My days of taking care of babies are ova!

...well, until I cool down. ;)

Auntie Lynn

[kimo55]

no, manoa... the proper phrase goes;

"also each their own"

[Menehune Man]

Many parents seem to speak to their children with anger instead of authority in order to control the situation. I feel that it only causes more rebellion in the long run and even less control.

[1stwahine]

Hey! Antonio didn't complain this morning! Took his "Sippy" Cup like a Champ and is going about his daily routine! :D

...he's happy. I'm happy. Everybody's happy! :p

Auntie Lynn

[Menehune Man]

So glad to hear that 1st Wahine!

When my daughter was just under 2 years old I was potty training her (yeah I was the main parent at the time, but that's another thread!) and she peed in her little potty so I started dancing around the bathroom then she stood up to dance with me while still peeing. What a laugh that was. We used cloth diapers and kept the clean ones in a garbage bag, well one day the garbage truck was passing our place in Berkeley and I accidentally threw them all away. When I discovered what I did, I explained it to Jasmine and she took it well. Only a couple of mistakes and that was it. So figuring that I stumbled upon the answer, I did the "same" to her bottle and of course she gave me THAT look, but again took it well. Hope I didn't mess her up too badly. ;)

[1stwahine]

So glad to hear that 1st Wahine!

When my daughter was just under 2 years old I was potty training her (yeah I was the main parent at the time, but that's another thread!) and she peed in her little potty so I started dancing around the bathroom then she stood up to dance with me while still peeing. What a laugh that was. We used cloth diapers and kept the clean ones in a garbage bag, well one day the garbage truck was passing our place in Berkeley and I accidentally threw them all away. When I discovered what I did, I explained it to Jasmine and she took it well. Only a couple of mistakes and that was it. So figuring that I stumbled upon the answer, I did the "same" to her bottle and of course she gave me THAT look, but again took it well. Hope I didn't mess her up too badly. ;)


...such a loving and cute story, Menehune Man!(chuckles) However, Boy's are quite different! I get "peeed" in the face all the time from Antonio when I change his diapers! :D Naughty Baby Boy ~ my precious grandson!

Auntie Lynn ;)

[Lei K]

Awww Auntie, I'm happy Antonio is doing good without a bottle now!

Both of my boys were mostly on sippy cups by 10 months and totally off the bottle by 12 months. Then they were off of sippy cups by 3. It happened very easily for us, so easy that I have no clue how I'm gonna go about things with the baby on the way if it's not the same. But every child is different so I will just hope he's as simple with the no bottle by 12 months thing.

And hey if this is also the show of the keiki thread here are my two...

http://i4.photobucket.com/albums/y101/Zetatopia/5a16982e.jpg

http://i4.photobucket.com/albums/y101/Zetatopia/f5522a24.jpg

http://i4.photobucket.com/albums/y101/Zetatopia/YGP14CA.jpg

Ok, the pictures are done. Just a proud mama of two great little guys! :D

[1stwahine]

Lei, Goodlooking children just like their parents! :D

Auntie Lynn ;)

[Menehune Man]

My Mother was in the Hospital for a bit with pneumonia. She's fine and yesterday she was released and I brought her (to her) home. She reminisced about the past and told me she was sorry for having been sooo hard on my brother and me. I responded with "That's okay Mom, you did us right, look how we turned out." I never got away with anything (much) growing up and was on the receiving end of some pretty serious whippings. I think my Mom is truly psychic because she 'just knew' things that she really shouldn't have. You know? Anyways I don't try to get away with anything that I could get into real trouble because I feel I'll just get caught and punished. So I'm glad that my Mom was sooo hard on me. Thanks Mom!

[1stwahine]

My Mother was in the Hospital for a bit with pneumonia. She's fine and yesterday she was released and I brought her (to her) home. She reminisced about the past and told me she was sorry for having been sooo hard on my brother and me. I responded with "That's okay Mom, you did us right, look how we turned out." I never got away with anything (much) growing up and was on the receiving end of some pretty serious whippings. I think my Mom is truly psychic because she 'just knew' things that she really shouldn't have. You know? Anyways I don't try to get away with anything that I could get into real trouble because I feel I'll just get caught and punished. So I'm glad that my Mom was sooo hard on me. Thanks Mom!

Awwww... Your post made me cry. My MAMA also had a bout with PNEUMONIA with complications last month and was hospitalized. It's when things like that occur ~ we realize how lucky we are. Mahalo, for making me appreciate her even more today and everyday that I have her.

I, too am glad that she was "hard" on me! ;)

...just gave her an unexpected honi honi. She told me, "You pUpuLE!" :p hahahaha

I love you Mommy!

Auntie Lynn :D