How many believe in true love?

[ROMVS]

So how many do believe in true love? The life-changing, full-on cliche true love variety.

[Pedro]

So how many do believe in true love? The life-changing, full-on cliche true love variety.


I wish I was cupid. I would be so trigger happy, and I guess I would be able to find true love, over and over again. It's something that women like to talk about and us men don't want to hear. But even though I don't want to hear it at time's I end up thinking about it so much that I get depressed and all I need is drink my sorrows away, but now even that don't work. Even the Friday night club scenes are starting to get a little irritating. (there I go again yada yada yada going off) I believe in this thing called true Love (I can't believe I am saying this especially on the threads :eek: ) But I still wish I was Cupid....... :rolleyes:

[Miulang]

I wish I was cupid. I would be so trigger happy, and I guess I would be able to find true love, over and over again. It's something that women like to talk about and us men don't want to hear. But even though I don't want to hear it at time's I end up thinking about it so much that I get depressed and all I need is drink my sorrows away, but now even that don't work. Even the Friday night club scenes are starting to get a little irritating. (there I go again yada yada yada going off) I believe in this thing called true Love (I can't believe I am saying this especially on the threads :eek: ) But I still wish I was Cupid.... :rolleyes:
Awwww Pedro! You going have one field day when you get to Utah next month. Get plenty wahines over there from good Mormon families who believe in true love and big families! ;)

Miulang

[Pedro]

Awwww Pedro! You going have one field day when you get to Utah next month. Get plenty wahines over there from good Mormon families who believe in true love and big families! ;)

Miulang

BIG FAMILIES!!? :eek: At least get plenty Wahines......:D Now I really wish I was Cupid :rolleyes:

[MadAzza]

Awwww Pedro! You going have one field day when you get to Utah next month. Get plenty wahines over there from good Mormon families who believe in true love and big families! ;)


"Good Mormon families"? Isn't that an ...

oh, never mind.

Yes, I believe in true love. I had it once.

[Miulang]

"Good Mormon families"? Isn't that an ...

oh, never mind.
shhhh, Maddie! He'll learn about those good Mormon families firsthand soon enough! :)

Miulang

[1stwahine]

True Love? You don't want to get me started! :eek:

Yes, I believe in true love.

I'm living it! ;)

Auntie Lynnhttp://i51.photobucket.com/albums/f358/1stwahine/heart_beating_final.gifMark :D

[craigwatanabe]

The funny thing about true love is that you'll never find it by looking for it. It comes from the rear and smacks you upside the head when you least expect it.

So for those who are desperately trying to find true love, stop. Instead focus on being the best person you can be and soon someone will be attracted to the person you are instead of the person you're trying to be.

No one likes a poser, and no one likes desperate people. Be yourself and the one that is naturally attracted to you is your soul mate.

When I met my wife, the feeling was unexplainable. Looking into her eyes was like seeing an old friend after a bazillion years. Like magic! No lust, just this warm feeling inside welling up (no it wasn't dinner :D ).

I believe in true love, my wife and I have nothing to hide from each other, we share our romantic thoughts after many many years of marriage. Our love gets stronger with each passing anniversary. Our goal is to grow old together. We both came from very strict and somewhat abusive/neglectful households and vowed never to raise our children that way.

Our true love for each other allows the children to see the solid foundation for which our family is based upon so they may go out and perpetuate our family values.

[nachodaddy]

Thanks Craig for being the first guy to post. I mirror what Craig says, when you are lookin', you aint gonna find it. When you are contemplating shaving your head and being a monk, it will sneak up behind you and whack you in the back of the neck.

Fo me it was dinner, homemade stuffed cannelloni. Never ate them before, did not know how rich they were. Ate four cuz they were soooooo good and spent the next four hours in agony on the couch with my future wife stroking my forehead.

18 years later, 5 pant sizes bigger, no regrets.

[SusieMisajon]

True love? Sure I do....and Santa, the Tooth Fairy, Easter Bunny, and the American Dream, too!

[CranBeree]

i do...i married him :)

[Pedro]

A song come's to my mind hearing all of this stuff about stop looking. "I was looking for love in all the wrong places Looking for love in too many faces. Searching their eye's, looking for traces of what I'm dreaming of. Hopping to find a friend and a lover. I'll bless the day I discovery another heart, looking for love!" I think I couldn't have said it any better. :D

[kimo55]

wookin po nub in aw duh wong paces. wookin po nuuuuuub!

well, true love don't believe in ME, so why...

[LikaNui]

wookin po nub in aw duh wong paces. wookin po nuuuuuub! Eddie Murphy, as "Buckwheat".
Do I win a prize for guessing correctly?

[Dale]

True Love? You don't want to get me started! :eek:

Yes, I believe in true love.

I'm living it! ;)

Auntie Lynnhttp://i51.photobucket.com/albums/f358/1stwahine/heart_beating_final.gifMark :D

Same here ... mine is this Saturday, so I'll be out of commission (maybe) for the next month.

[MadAzza]

Same here ... mine is this Saturday, so I'll be out of commission (maybe) for the next month.

Your what is this Saturday? Do you mean, your wedding? If so, congratulations!

If I am misunderstanding your post, I apologize. I seem to be doing that a lot lately.

[1stwahine]

Your what is this Saturday? Do you mean, your wedding? If so, congratulations!

If I am misunderstanding your post, I apologize. I seem to be doing that a lot lately.

I get the same impression.

Congratulations to you and your husband to be! :D

Auntie Lynn

[Dale]

Yup, that's my wedding ... this Saturday and we are going nuts. Yup, me is the husband and will be marrying a wifey!!! After this Saturday, it's going to be check in once in a while and most of the time out of commission until the middle of August!!!
I get the same impression.

Congratulations to you and your husband to be!Thank you ... although me going to be getting a wifey after Saturday!!! :)

[1stwahine]

Thank you ... although me going to be getting a wifey after Saturday!!! :)

My Bad! :o Congratulations to you and your Bride! :D

Auntie Lynn ;)

[Ms_Aloha_Nui]

WOW! It's so refreshing to see so many men posting on this thread....as for me, I do believe in true love.....I thought I found him way back in high school...we dated for quite a long time and then split up when he went away to school and I stayed home for school....we met up some 15 years later and the magic that made the friendship great back then was still there....he's married now with 2 keiki and I'm divorced....the 'fling' thing isn't going to cut it so we've remained friends.....but, yes, true love is possible!

[legal_secretary_in_mtl]

having A FLING is NOT true love NOR is it ever close to being love.. it has NOTHING TO DO with love.. its SEX.. nothing more ! and to what u said, its called CHEATING if u slept with him and he was married

[Adri]

having A FLING is NOT true love NOR is it ever close to being love.. it has NOTHING TO DO with love.. its SEX.. nothing more ! and to what u said, its called CHEATING if u slept with him and he was married

Not that Ms_Aloha_Nui needs any defending here but I do not read her post as saying that a fling is true love or that she slept with him while he was married. What I think she's saying is that her true love is married and since a fling is not acceptable to her, they've remained friends (I read into here a "as opposed to more than friends) even if she considers him her true love. ;)

[beaker]

I do believe in a good snuggle.

[idvfilms]

Yes, I believe in true love. Then we married and that was almost 10 years ago. :D

[hawaiifiveoh]

I believe in true love and fate as well.
But since I am moving to Hilo for school in a couple of weeks I have to break up with my girlfriend. 8 months of great love, nothing could seperate us.

Our love for eachother will continue even though we are going to have an open relationship over seas. I feel this will be the best thing rather than a maintenance breakup. What you say? :cool:

bts

[Miulang]

I believe in true love and fate as well.
But since I am moving to Hilo for school in a couple of weeks I have to break up with my girlfriend. 8 months of great love, nothing could seperate us.

Our love for eachother will continue even though we are going to have an open relationship over seas. I feel this will be the best thing rather than a maintenance breakup. What you say? :cool:

bts
I thought she was moving with you?

[MadAzza]

I believe in true love and fate as well.
But since I am moving to Hilo for school in a couple of weeks I have to break up with my girlfriend. 8 months of great love, nothing could seperate us.

Our love for eachother will continue even though we are going to have an open relationship over seas. I feel this will be the best thing rather than a maintenance breakup. What you say? :cool:

bts

Don't take this the wrong way, but ... how old are you? If you're under 25 or so, you have no idea what a "great love" is. I know that's not PC because we're all supposed to pretend that extremely young people are capable of mataure relationships, but they're not. (If you're a teenager, the concept is laughable.) You're simply not mature enough. Sure, you've got all the parts, but you're still forming and evolving as a person. In two weeks you two already will have grown in different directions. So, you should just break up.

If you're older, then you're a fool to try to do the long-distance relationship thing. Either stay together or don't. Make a choice.

"Open relationship" -- what is that, screwing around? That's not a recipe for success, either. How does that mesh with that "great love"?

I think you both should just move on. Chances are you will, anyway. Yeah, it's hard to break up, but you'll both be just fine.

[junebloom]

http://www.bodylighting.com/graphics/F577%20DblHeartArrow.gif I believe in true love. To me GOD is the truest Love of all and He is the giver of the gift of true love between man and women

[Lei K]

Don't take this the wrong way, but ... how old are you? If you're under 25 or so, you have no idea what a "great love" is. I know that's not PC because we're all supposed to pretend that extremely young people are capable of mataure relationships, but they're not. (If you're a teenager, the concept is laughable.) You're simply not mature enough. Sure, you've got all the parts, but you're still forming and evolving as a person. In two weeks you two already will have grown in different directions. So, you should just break up.

I feel a little sad to see you say that it's laughable that young people aren't capable of true love or understanding it. My husband and I have been together nearly 9 years, since we were 17 and 18, married 7 of those years and always living on our own, never with our parents, ever. Our relationship is beautiful. 3 children later we have never been happier and we keep growing mentally and emotionally together. There is a lot of respect and loyalty between us. I love watching my husband grow into a more incredible man with each passing year. Nothing is laughable about our union of almost a decade. I think relationships can be childish at most any age. We have friends of all ages from early twenties to fifties and age doesn't seem to guarantee them a mature, loving, relationship.

I have no comment on Brandon007's relationship but I do know it's quite possible to find great and LASTING love at a young age.

[1stwahine]

Many moons ago...I was a mere twenty years old. I met my late husband on a Friday night in Hawaiian Hut. He was celebrating with friends on winning the California Bantam Weight Championship of California! Out of all the wahines in the whole nightclub ~ he asked me to dance a slow song. :)

That night we became inseparable.

We got married that Monday. Yep! In three days! We had a Wedding Party too. My sisters and MAMA although quite angry bought Chinese Food and delivered to my Penthouse Apartment I shared with my two other girlfriends in Salt Lake. We had a PARTY! Two wedding Cakes too!! :D

Twenty years after and three beautiful children we parted and said goodbye. Not from divorce but from illness. He was the love of my Life. Yes, love can happen when one is young. Love can happen when one is old. Love can happen at any age...it is up to both to succeed at it and Love each other forever.

I am fortunate to Love again. But das another STORY. ;)

Love,

Auntie Lynn

[Leo Lakio]

the gift of true love between man and womenbetween all human beings, perhaps, regardless of gender?

[1stwahine]

between all human beings, perhaps, regardless of gender?

Yes, Leo....my answer to that is yes! :)

Auntie Lynn

[Leo Lakio]

man and womenOne man + many women? Is this a polygamy question? :D

[1stwahine]

One man + many women? Is this a polygamy question? :D

Uhhh...I neva see dat. I say one man and one woman or one on one. :p

No get greedy! :D

Auntie Lynn

[Lei K]

At least Auntie didn't bring the "rabbit" into the true love question. :p

*BIG HUGS AUNTIE!*

[1stwahine]

At least Auntie didn't bring the "rabbit" into the true love question. :p

*BIG HUGS AUNTIE!*

There's a place and time to be serious my Darling Lei! ;)

LOVE is sacred.

Auntie Lynn

[Lei K]

Indeed it is and I love hearing your stories about your late husband. Very beautiful and they make me smile.

[Leo Lakio]

There's a place and time to be serious my Darling Lei! ;)

LOVE is sacred.

Auntie LynnAnd HT is a place to be silly, much of the time - hurrah for that!

[MadAzza]

I feel a little sad to see you say that it's laughable that young people aren't capable of true love or understanding it. My husband and I have been together nearly 9 years, since we were 17 and 18, married 7 of those years and always living on our own, never with our parents, ever. Our relationship is beautiful.

Don't be sad. I'm very happy for you. I was speaking generally, and I ask that you read carefully to what I am saying: Yes, it is possible to have love when you are young. And if you do, you don't move across the ocean and date other people. Or did you and your husband do that? If I am assuming incorrectly, I apologize.

The OP said he is moving to Hawaii; his girlfriend is not coming with him. My comments were directed at him and his situation. He and his "great love" have been dating for eight months. He is moving to another state. He has made no indication that she will ever be moving to Hawaii to be with him. They almost certainly will not keep up a long-distance relationship if they are quite young, especially if he is already talking about having an "open relationship," which generally means dating other people. What would be the point of telling themselves they're staying together? Clearly, they are not. I think he's just postponing the inevitable.

It's easier just to break it off than to lie to yourselves about how you're going to keep up your "great love" of "eight months" (!) while you have an "open relationship" several thousand miles away. I'm not saying that to be mean; I'm trying to make it easier for him to do the inevitable. He asked for opinions, I offered mine based on his post.

[1stwahine]

And HT is a place to be silly, much of the time - hurrah for that!

Yeah! Let's get back to the odda thread and talk about "pro·pa·gan·da!" :p

Indeed it is and I love hearing your stories about your late husband. Very beautiful and they make me smile.

Mahalo Lei! I can't wait to see you and your family ~ to make all of you laugh and smile in person! :D


Auntie Lynn

[manoasurfer123]

I believe in true love and fate as well.
But since I am moving to Hilo for school in a couple of weeks I have to break up with my girlfriend. 8 months of great love, nothing could seperate us.

Our love for eachother will continue even though we are going to have an open relationship over seas. I feel this will be the best thing rather than a maintenance breakup. What you say? :cool:

bts
One less person to worry about Housing Brandon!

If your love for eachother is strong...then the long distance will work out...

However, don't let that stop you from having a chance at finding another girl here in Hawaii.

I know it will be hard for the both of you... however, so is paying monthly Long Distance phone bills...etc.

No worry... Plenty girls on the Big Island... That's where I met my wife;)

[Leo Lakio]

It's easier just to break it off than to lie to yourselves about how you're going to keep up your "great love" of "eight months" (!) while you have an "open relationship" several thousand miles away.Probably doesn't matter what we say - they will either succeed (and can say "I told you so") or fail (then we can say it.) Every relationship is different, and while there are certainly success stories of young love standing the test of time, I suspect (note - expressing personal opinion here, not something I can back with scholarly research) MadAzza's assessment is more likely to be the case.

It's difficult (not impossible) to maintain a long-distance relationship, more so if the participants are younger (and therefore less experienced in the world of romantic relationships), even more so with the stated intent of having an "open relationship" (by the standard definition), and even more on top of that with a relationship that has lasted less time than a single television season.

Sorry, Brandon, but I gotta join Maddie's camp on this one - the odds are strongly against you, so you may want to consider a sweet farewell to the relationship, leaving it on good terms with pleasant memories for both parties, and a promise to try to keep a friendship alive.

[craigwatanabe]

I had an 8-month relationship with a girl from Roosevelt HS. Back then (1977) we had no internet so when I left for the military (joined before I met her under delayed enlistment) we tried in vain to keep the relationship alive, sending love letters almost everyday to each other, but alas after a few months (almost a year) it was too hard for her to bear and slowly the letters stopped.

Long distance relationships rarely succeed and if your's can then it did indeed pass the single most hardest test of love. The test of time away. For some love becomes distant and it was never meant to be, for others, love becomes wanting and for that it deserves reunification.

But as MadAzza indicated, at such a young age how do you know what true love is if you've never experienced anything more than what you have? If all you've tasted was a tart lemon and never experienced a sweet one then all you know is the tartness of what you have.

If you and your girlfriend have experienced true love, then it was meant to be, but you're up against some intense odds of success. Good luck Brandon. :)

[Shan-n]

I believe in true love however I have never experienced it. I think some people confuse true love with lust. Cupid please visit me soon!!! :D I am tired of being single. LOL

Here is a quote that a friend sent to me recently. This sums it all up!!!Unforunately I do not know the author of this quote.

"True love is neither physical, nor romantic. True love is an acceptance of all that is, has been, will be, and will not be."