I'm going thgough a bit of a rough time in life right now and I suppose I'm just looking to see what other people do to cope with daily/not so daily stresses.
My wife and I rescued a dog from our SPCA about a year and a half ago. A year went by with no incident with him and we both love him very much. 5 months ago, he tore a hole in a rather expensive comforter and my wife went ape on him. He apparently felt threatened and reeled around and bit her. Aside from this being mentaly traumitizing, she had to deal with physical pain from the 4 stitches as well.
On the 13th of this month, she was petting him on her lap and decided to clip his nails. The nail trimmers and his soft muzzle happened to be close to her so she picked them up to put them on him (as we had done in the past with no incident). He went psycho on her and bit her in the hand. This time requiring 2 stitches.
The first time, we attributed it to him being extremely freightened of her. The second time, we didn't know what to think. After getting advice from people, we decided to hire a dog behaviorist. Our local "Dog Whisperer" if you will. She came to our home on Sunday the 23rd and spent 3 hours with us and the dog and her conclusions were that he was a very loving dog. Too loving to the point that he was demanding attention from her by pushing himself against her. She also said he had very nervous behavior and some post traumatic stress symptoms from previous home settings. She reccomended (and showed us) some training methods as well as proper behavior (for us) to use around the dog. No yelling at him whatsoever even if he destroys our favorite items as this would send him into a nervous state and might cause him to bite.
Later that evening before going to bed, I was being stupid and wanted to startle our 2 cats off of our bed. So I playfully slapped my hands on the edge of the bed several times and made a general ruckus.
Apparently our dog thought something else was going on and he jumped up and bit me. Thankfully I was wearing a thick t-shirt and only got some minor cuts and bruising from the bite. This pretty much sent my wife over the edge and terrified her a bit. We made the difficult decision that he was to go back to the shelter.
This whole ordeal has been extremely taxing on both of us mentally. Last night was the worst when we actually brought him back. Both of us were in tears and she didn't sleep. I love my wife dearly and I know that I have to be strong for the both of us. She's not taking this well emotionally (understandably) and I am trying to be there for her as much as I can. On top of all this, my wife was just getting back on track emotionally from a miscarriage that was to be our first. We're emotional wrecks right now.
My problem is that I don't have anyone to be strong for me...
In times of stress, we usually rely on each other for support but lately I've had to carry the strength for the both of us. It's wearing me down and I'm sort of in a loss for what to do to cope. I've taken to just engrossing myself in other things just to "forget" what's going on around me till I have to deal with it.
My wife and I rescued a dog from our SPCA about a year and a half ago. A year went by with no incident with him and we both love him very much. 5 months ago, he tore a hole in a rather expensive comforter and my wife went ape on him. He apparently felt threatened and reeled around and bit her. Aside from this being mentaly traumitizing, she had to deal with physical pain from the 4 stitches as well.
On the 13th of this month, she was petting him on her lap and decided to clip his nails. The nail trimmers and his soft muzzle happened to be close to her so she picked them up to put them on him (as we had done in the past with no incident). He went psycho on her and bit her in the hand. This time requiring 2 stitches.
The first time, we attributed it to him being extremely freightened of her. The second time, we didn't know what to think. After getting advice from people, we decided to hire a dog behaviorist. Our local "Dog Whisperer" if you will. She came to our home on Sunday the 23rd and spent 3 hours with us and the dog and her conclusions were that he was a very loving dog. Too loving to the point that he was demanding attention from her by pushing himself against her. She also said he had very nervous behavior and some post traumatic stress symptoms from previous home settings. She reccomended (and showed us) some training methods as well as proper behavior (for us) to use around the dog. No yelling at him whatsoever even if he destroys our favorite items as this would send him into a nervous state and might cause him to bite.
Later that evening before going to bed, I was being stupid and wanted to startle our 2 cats off of our bed. So I playfully slapped my hands on the edge of the bed several times and made a general ruckus.
Apparently our dog thought something else was going on and he jumped up and bit me. Thankfully I was wearing a thick t-shirt and only got some minor cuts and bruising from the bite. This pretty much sent my wife over the edge and terrified her a bit. We made the difficult decision that he was to go back to the shelter.
This whole ordeal has been extremely taxing on both of us mentally. Last night was the worst when we actually brought him back. Both of us were in tears and she didn't sleep. I love my wife dearly and I know that I have to be strong for the both of us. She's not taking this well emotionally (understandably) and I am trying to be there for her as much as I can. On top of all this, my wife was just getting back on track emotionally from a miscarriage that was to be our first. We're emotional wrecks right now.
My problem is that I don't have anyone to be strong for me...
In times of stress, we usually rely on each other for support but lately I've had to carry the strength for the both of us. It's wearing me down and I'm sort of in a loss for what to do to cope. I've taken to just engrossing myself in other things just to "forget" what's going on around me till I have to deal with it.
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