I'm not sure this is the right place to ask this question, but I thought I'd give it a try.
My husband's job brought us to Hawaii late last summer and we love it here. We recently moved into our new home in Makakilo and the visitors are lining up! My question is about who pays for what when people visit. Here are some scenarios:
1. My CPA from the mainland and his wife will be here on vacation in a couple of weeks. He e-mailed and asked if we could get together for dinner. Who pays? Them? Us? Do we split the check? I don't want to be rude, but I can't afford to take everyone that shows up on the island out to dinner. We've already had this same situation twice and we paid, but I'm not sure if that's the right way to handle it.
2. One of my best girlfriends is coming to visit for a week in June. We provided her airline ticket (my husband's employer gives us a certain number every year and we had one left over) and she will be staying with us, of course. While she's here I would like to do some touristy things like the Paradise Cove luau. Do I pay for her ticket to those kinds of things? Do I let her pay my way to anything?
3. The three adult daughters of some very dear friends will be visiting soon. They aren't really coming to see us, they are just using us as a hotel (which is fine). I have also offered them the use of my car. We have planned to go out to dinner together their first night here. Should we buy? Should we let them buy?
Any help you can provide will be greatly appreciated. I don't want to seem cheap, but I'm afraid we'll go broke if we don't set some boundaries. We are happy to share our home with friends and family but don't want to be taken advantage of.
Thanks.
My husband's job brought us to Hawaii late last summer and we love it here. We recently moved into our new home in Makakilo and the visitors are lining up! My question is about who pays for what when people visit. Here are some scenarios:
1. My CPA from the mainland and his wife will be here on vacation in a couple of weeks. He e-mailed and asked if we could get together for dinner. Who pays? Them? Us? Do we split the check? I don't want to be rude, but I can't afford to take everyone that shows up on the island out to dinner. We've already had this same situation twice and we paid, but I'm not sure if that's the right way to handle it.
2. One of my best girlfriends is coming to visit for a week in June. We provided her airline ticket (my husband's employer gives us a certain number every year and we had one left over) and she will be staying with us, of course. While she's here I would like to do some touristy things like the Paradise Cove luau. Do I pay for her ticket to those kinds of things? Do I let her pay my way to anything?
3. The three adult daughters of some very dear friends will be visiting soon. They aren't really coming to see us, they are just using us as a hotel (which is fine). I have also offered them the use of my car. We have planned to go out to dinner together their first night here. Should we buy? Should we let them buy?
Any help you can provide will be greatly appreciated. I don't want to seem cheap, but I'm afraid we'll go broke if we don't set some boundaries. We are happy to share our home with friends and family but don't want to be taken advantage of.
Thanks.
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