Marriage Proposal: Where & How?

[leashlaws]

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I had no interest in getting married and thought it wouldn't happen especially so "early". I always wanted to just live with somebody incase things didn't work out. My parents had a really strange and stressful marriage and my dad lived off and on with other women and dated other women and blah blah blah which made for a weird childhood.

We met at Northwestern in Evanston in the same dorm, 1/2 the floor men the other side women. I had been there one year as a transfer student and was graduating in 1979. My second year there I saw this kid in the cafeteria who struck me as interesting. As things went on and more details happened than need be recorded here we got together and this person was only a freshman!
Needless to say I stayed in Evanston after graduation and got an apartment and slowly all possessions came to my place and there it was a live-in situation. My parents found out and were cool about it they kind of knew but really found out one weekend when they came up and we'd left out toiletries that were a good giveaway. So we went on like this for 3 years. Why? Well we knew we'd get married because by then I was of the opinion that I'd never live with anyone unless marriage was the end result (never say never). So because of finances (social security payments were an issue, marriage would have stopped them) we continued on through undergraduate and then graduate school having moved once to a large apartment closer to campus. We got married 2 weeks after graduation it was a big eventful summer! We got married in the Skokie Hilton had about 90 guests or maybe less. An uncle married us making it very special and our friends drank the hotel out of booze. My dad rented a floor for indulging guests and the party went on all night. The next morning he left an open ticket for anyone wanting to have the hotel brunch which was a huge amount of food and complimentary champagne. It was quite a nice time! This was 26 years ago.

[surlygirly]

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My first husband asked me to marry him at a Waffle House. I guess I should have known then the marriage was doomed, but I was 18 and not smart enough to run.

My forever husband picked a fight with me so he could go "run errands" without me wanting to go with him. When he got back home, he said, "Do you know how hard it is to be mean to you on purpose?" I turned around and said, "What?" I saw he had roses. I thought it was because we had a stupid fight, so I said, "Oh, you didn't have to do that." Then I saw he had put the ring in one of the rose buds. He'd also brought champagne and chocolate covered strawberries, so we had a nice little celebration.

[almond mocha]

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There was no real proposal in our case. We kind of just agreed to get married. We met and dated through high school and college, and had been together for about 8 years, so it seemed the natural progression in our relationship. Not very romantic, but we were each other's one and only. Next year we hit our 3oth wedding anniversary.

[oceanpacific]

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[B]I will bare my soul to the ohana.

FIRST MARRIAGE: Very traditional. We had a Saturday evening dinner at THE SUMMIT, atop the Ala Moana Hotel. It's now called AARON'S. I presented her with a 1.11 carat diamond engagement ring. But, it was not a "surprise" or anything like that. I let her select the loose stone a month earlier and being the kind of practical woman she is, she did not pick the most expensive of the four selections.

The proposal itself was not anything dramatic. It was kind of offhanded: "What do you think about getting married sometime?" "Okay." The next thing I knew, the hotel catering department, photographer, florist, etc. were all being contacted. Size of reception: 400 guests.

SECOND MARRIAGE: Very simple. Weekday civil ceremony at the courthouse with two witnesses (my classmates), followed by lunch at Andrew's Restaurant (Ward Center) for the four of us (my friends took the rest of the day off). She has a wedding ring consisting of a 0.70 center stone surrounded by a number of smaller side stones. I plan to replace it with a 1.25 carat + solitaire at the end of this year.

The actual proposal was also kind of offhanded. I let her know early on that my intentions were of the most serious nature. It was the second time around for both of us and we each brought a young daughter into the marriage.[ The marriage has lasted twenty years, longer than either of our first nuptials. We have two additional children. The older ones are now "fully employed taxpayers." The younger ones remain "dependents."/B]

[MyopicJoe]

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Nice boat!

LOL

toot-toot

Maybe she's utterly bored. She's like, "OMG he can't even sing in key. And his fingers are as clumsy on the guitar as they are..."

[LikaNui]

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Nice boat!

[MyopicJoe]

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"Romance with guitar, Cadaques, Spain."

Is this Spainaird proposing to his woman, or is he serenading his wife of many years? Though the first possibility is romantic (how can you go wrong with that setting?), the latter is far more so. Look at how she's happily holding her hands.




I found this picture on Lee and Sachi LeFever's website: TheWorldIsNotFlat.

They took one year to plan a worldwide trip, saved up about $75K, quit their jobs, and spent the next year visiting 29 countries.

They're also the creative people behind CommonCraft, makers of the "in Plain English" series of videos.

[kanahina]

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what a cool thread ...

geez, let me think way back ...

all i remember is that we planned a little Big Island vacation (our first vacation together). One night while we were there in the hotel room, he just busted out this little box with an engagement ring in it and just asked me to marry him! I was very surprised! And to think he had bought the ring awhile before and had been hiding it from me! And, he even "asked" my parents permission so they actually knew he was going to ask me before I did!

and we're still together after 17 1/2 years (14 years married)!

[1stwahine]

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I wouldn't even make it past the first date if I disrespected her like that. Much less have the honor of marrying a classy woman such as herself.

Awwwww...wat a sweet thing to say. PM me, you win a t-shirt and bumper sticker!

Love and ALOHA,

Auntie Lynn

[1stwahine]

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"Eh, tita. Wut fo' dinnah? I stay hungry."
Whack...

Whack-whack-whack

Eh..PK, my love, das you?

Wait ... are you telling us you're married to 1stwahine????

Nah..no can be...den again, Whack! Whack!!

Auntie Lynn

[MyopicJoe]

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Wait ... are you telling us you're married to 1stwahine????

I wouldn't even make it past the first date if I disrespected her like that. Much less have the honor of marrying a classy woman such as herself.

[Leo Lakio]

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Whack...

Whack-whack-whack

Wait ... are you telling us you're married to 1stwahine????

[MyopicJoe]

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Dang. Now I'm totally homesick for Hollywood. Sniffle.

I know we don't have a Jack Burton here, but we do have Magnum P.I.!

*smile hopefully*

My head spins when I watch that show!

Yeah. Some people live in another reality.

That. Was. Your counter-offer?

<even stare>

You know it's because I'm just jealous of your poet

won't ask you what the result would be because I should expect that you are too much of a gentleman to tell us.

No problem. I can tell you everything that will happen. Blow by blow. My wife will watch the video. Her heart will melt. She'll come into the living room all soppy eyed. I'll be on the sofa, playing the XBox. Without looking at her I'll say:

"Eh, tita. Wut fo' dinnah? I stay hungry."


Whack...

Whack-whack-whack

[Pua'i Mana'o]

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Aye-ya. I better not let my wife watch that.

I counter your youtube video, with this one, Pua'i Mana'o!

That. Was. Your counter-offer?

<even stare>

Why Joe, you muggle, you. I am sure Cusack is more towards your personal vibe, but try this: ready my previous link for your wife, tell her in a simple tone, "this guy says what I feel" and leave the room. Let her watch it alone.

I won't ask you what the result would be because I should expect that you are too much of a gentleman to tell us.



For giggles, on another day, play Cusack. Then ask her which one stirred her.

[leashlaws]

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Marriage is just a formality. The most expensive ceremonies won't make a relationship any stronger than what it is. Romance is the little things you do that are big enough to make a fond memory.




Haha, Captain Ron. How did the topic of your engagement come up while talking with Kurt Russell? Anyways, you probably did the right thing by following your gut. A guy shouldn't be pressured into proposing, he'll just resent the woman after they're married. A man should be begging.




Haha.




Oh dear, that wouldn't have been a fond memory at all.

Speaking of which, has anyone seen that show "Platinum Weddings"? It's just ridiculous how much money these people spend on lighting, logos, flowers, jewelry, thank goodness they extend that over spending to the food and booze too. My head spins when I watch that show!