My mom died (on my daughter's birthday no less) from a stroke she suffered earlier in the week. I'm doing ok, so I've been focusing on helping my dad with their affairs. There's quite a lot of details to worry about, and I'd appreciate any advice you have to offer.
1) I need to choose a mortuary to have my mom cremated at. Have you had a good experience with any place in particular? Any bad experiences (no need to go into details)?
Basically my dad heard from someone who heard from someone else that some places cremate bodies together and mix up all the ashes, so he's terrified that will happen to my mom. He wants to witness the cremation himself, but I doubt any place does that.
2) We'll need to find a lawyer to help with estate planning (wills, trusts, power of attorney, etc.) Any recommendations? Which organizations do we call to make sure an attorney is in good standing?
3) We might need a medical malpractice lawyer. My dad might just be going through an angry phase of grief, but in case he's still serious, we might need to find one.
4) Do you know which bereavement resources are available? My wife and I are doing ok, and I think we've done an ok job telling the girls, who we'll keep an eye out on. My dad's a bigger concern. He's the strong on the outside type, but very dependent on my mom. So far he hasn't sunk into deep despair; he's focusing on me and the grandchildren. I'll have to keep an eye out on him too.
If you don't have any advice, but just want to share your own story, I'd appreciate hearing that too. Anything will help.
Thanks in advance,
MJ
1) I need to choose a mortuary to have my mom cremated at. Have you had a good experience with any place in particular? Any bad experiences (no need to go into details)?
Basically my dad heard from someone who heard from someone else that some places cremate bodies together and mix up all the ashes, so he's terrified that will happen to my mom. He wants to witness the cremation himself, but I doubt any place does that.
2) We'll need to find a lawyer to help with estate planning (wills, trusts, power of attorney, etc.) Any recommendations? Which organizations do we call to make sure an attorney is in good standing?
3) We might need a medical malpractice lawyer. My dad might just be going through an angry phase of grief, but in case he's still serious, we might need to find one.
4) Do you know which bereavement resources are available? My wife and I are doing ok, and I think we've done an ok job telling the girls, who we'll keep an eye out on. My dad's a bigger concern. He's the strong on the outside type, but very dependent on my mom. So far he hasn't sunk into deep despair; he's focusing on me and the grandchildren. I'll have to keep an eye out on him too.
If you don't have any advice, but just want to share your own story, I'd appreciate hearing that too. Anything will help.
Thanks in advance,
MJ
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