"Getting Over it"

[Amati]

Re: "Getting Over it"

[Delete by Amati, reposted below.]

[Menehune Man]

Re: "Getting Over it"

“It is easier to forgive an enemy than to forgive a friend.”

William Blake quote

[turtlegirl]

Re: "Getting Over it"

Aloha Serenity!
Im so sorry you're having these problems. It seems to me that you have been a good friend to this person. Likely, they have been good to you as well. So its perfectly reasonable that your feelings were hurt by this friend's opinion. Going on the assumption that neither of you want to hurt the other, Id suggest that you think more about the positive things that this person brings with their friendship. Maybe that will help you see things from a new perspective.

Ignore Amati's comment; you're being a real person with feelings! Thats perfectly ok! Tho I hope that this thread doesn't cause you more problems! (have you thought about changing your screen name?)

[Amati]

Re: "Getting Over it"

sigh. what to do, what to do.

Well, one thing you can do is to not talk harshly online about people (ie friends) in your life. You never know when they might read your posts.

[Serenity]

"Get over it & move on." That's not an easy thing for me to do, & it continues to haunt me, & I really don't want to confront the person about it, because it is so old already, & yet it still bothers me :-(. I hate it!!. It is very difficult to call this friend, because I feel that I seem to be walking on egg shells around her when or if I do call. She tends to want to bite people's head off w/o reason, & that is the indication I got from her. sigh :-(.

I called her up once, she bit my head off, although, I forgave her. Much later down the road, I called a 2nd time, & wouldn't you know it!!, yup!!, she bit my head off again . It has been really difficult for me to call her, & I just do ok with sending her a message in facebook. Then again, she may call me up & say & yell at me with "WTF??!!" or something similar to that.

what to do? you know? If I do send her a message, & she may end up retaliating by calling me up & getting mad at me, if I do decide to re hash it again.

I just can't seem to get over it. That's my problem. :-(. I don't want her to be (or hear her) yelling at me either.

I did that once with another friend of mine from long before, & gawd!, all she did was send me 3 to 4 yelling messages on my voice mail, which led me shook up, & could not get over for weeks to come, either. Maybe it was easier for me to get over that, because that friend lives in Arizona & not here in Hawaii, & the fact that she deleted me off of her list of friends in Facebook too.lol. . The other first one I spoke of, she lives here in Oahu, & still is in my facebook. If I do delete her, she may feel offended.

sigh. what to do, what to do.