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SG = very well said! looks like you are one of the few who understand what friendship really is about. and you can tell the difference between a friend and an acquaintance.
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I've had to take stock of a lot of things in my life in the last year or two, and one of those things is friendships. I've considered each one: what does this person bring to my life? Is it positive or negative? Who am I when I'm around them? Do they impact me in good or bad ways? Do they make me feel good or bad after I'm with them? If I called them at 3am, would they answer? If they called me, would I? It hurt to let some of them go, but it's made my life so much better without that added stress and tension.
This friend of yours sounds toxic. Whether it's just her or it's the two of you together that make that toxicity, it doesn't really matter. Don't let anyone treat you like that- you deserve much better. Why give someone else that power over you, the power to make you feel so awful about yourself? Screw that. This girl is screaming at you and you're worried about hurting HER feelings by deleting her off Facebook? Honey, just delete her. Friends will come and go, but witches like that will do you no good ever.
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Originally posted by Kaonohi View Post[...]
Sometimes our needs are more than our acquaintences can bear; this is when you discover who are friends and who are not.
Friends don't desert you.
Originally posted by Amati View PostYep, a way to "unfriend" someone, without having to do it yourself. Just make the person not want YOU as a friend anymore. I think we've all done that, yes?
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Originally posted by Kaonohi View Postthey may decide to no longer be your friend, ans will become aggressive to ether put you off or drive you away. Think about it.
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Friends who make you feel bad are no longer "being" your friends.
Either they never really were your friends or they got tired at some aspect of you.
If a friend offers advice, they try to do it gently. If their gentle advice is ignored over numerous interactions, they may decide to no longer be your friend, ans will become aggressive to ether put you off or drive you away. Think about it.
Sometimes our needs are more than our acquaintences can bear; this is when you discover who are friends and who are not.
Friends don't desert you.
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Originally posted by anapuni808 View PostI think the question should be, are these people really true friends? if someone who i think is my friend chooses to verbally abuse me, yell at me and call me names - they are no longer a part of my life. maybe i'm harder on people than others but i just don't choose to take abuse from anyone. and as far as deleting from FB friends list? i've deleted quite a few - most don't even notice.
i really hope serenity can find some peace - she has really gone through a lot this last year and i wish her all the best.
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Originally posted by Amati View PostBack on track, watching what you write could perhaps help you to not lose a friend.
As we all know, one never knows who might be reading our online posts.
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Originally posted by turtlegirl View PostAloha Serenity!
Im so sorry you're having these problems. It seems to me that you have been a good friend to this person. Likely, they have been good to you as well. So its perfectly reasonable that your feelings were hurt by this friend's opinion. Going on the assumption that neither of you want to hurt the other, Id suggest that you think more about the positive things that this person brings with their friendship. Maybe that will help you see things from a new perspective.
Ignore Amati's comment;
you're being a real person with feelings! That's perfectly ok!
Tho I hope that this thread doesn't cause you more problems!
(have you thought about changing your screen name?)
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Originally posted by Amati View PostWell, one thing you can do is to not talk harshly online about people (ie friends) in your life. You never know when they might read your posts.
IF I had used my real name, then I wouldn't be able to pour my heart out like this to this site & ask for advices, yeah?. :-)
With my fake name, would you be able to know who I am really?, where I live? etc. ? Just saying, you know?. :-)
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I agree with that, Anapuni, I also discharge so-called friends who do not act like a FRIEND. And ditto for best wishes for Serenity, everyone deserves some peace.
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I think the question should be, are these people really true friends? if someone who i think is my friend chooses to verbally abuse me, yell at me and call me names - they are no longer a part of my life. maybe i'm harder on people than others but i just don't choose to take abuse from anyone. and as far as deleting from FB friends list? i've deleted quite a few - most don't even notice.
i really hope serenity can find some peace - she has really gone through a lot this last year and i wish her all the best.
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Originally posted by Amati View PostWell, one thing you can do is to not talk harshly online about people (ie friends) in your life. You never know when they might read your posts.Originally posted by turtlegirl View PostIgnore Amati's comment; you're being a real person with feelings! Thats perfectly ok! Tho I hope that this thread doesn't cause you more problems! (have you thought about changing your screen name?)
Back on track, watching what you write could perhaps help you to not lose a friend. As we all know, one never knows who might be reading our online posts.
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