Ladies...do you feel invisible?

[tutusue]

I thoroughly enjoyed reading Lavagal's new column. The older I get the more I enjoy being "invisible"; the enjoyment I consider more a byproduct of my job than my age! So, ladies over 40...have you experienced this same phenomenon? Men...do you agree? Disagree? Heck...do you experience it too?

Inquiring minds wanna know!

[Keanu]

Re: Ladies...do you feel invisible?

Ladies in their 40's are more visible in my eyes. Isn't a woman in her 40's supposed to be in her sexual prime? that would make her more appealing, not less.

[oceanpacific]

Re: Ladies...do you feel invisible?

Ladies in their 40's are more visible in my eyes. Isn't a woman in her 40's supposed to be in her sexual prime? that would make her more appealing, not less.

But, men are supposedly at their peak at 18!

So, I was already going downhill when I started ...........

[lavagal]

Re: Ladies...do you feel invisible?

It seems to have struck a note with some, but only women have told me that they liked it. Which is OK. I can't fault guys if they don't like it, but I just wonder if they realize the phenomenom. Also, I do find it convenient to be invisible SOMETIMES. But I don't like to be invisible all the time. It's like the beginning of the end. Why be here? That sort of thing. Thanks to those of you who read the column. I also wrote a story about the Mayor. Given the publication I'm in, you won't find breaking or stunning news, so I just try to write a good story.

Aloha!

[i-hungry]

Re: Ladies...do you feel invisible?

Yeah sometimes the aging causes you to be invisible. But aging is only one factor in not be noticed or eye catching.

If anything, the problem is more about people's shallowness. Respect people equally and don't treat the pretty ones better.

[timkona]

Re: Ladies...do you feel invisible?

Sounds like you just want to get laid more. So go find some 18 year old boys and take a few of them home with you. They will NOTICE you. And since women in their 40's are in their sexual prime, and men at 18 the same, then it should be a perfect fit.

Problem Solved. You're welcome.

[cezanne]

Re: Ladies...do you feel invisible?

My wife probably can attest to being invisible... when I'm watching a great game on TV. No fault of hers, she's beautiful... probably just a quirk that God outfitted Adam with when they pissed Him off.

Nice article btw.

[tutusue]

Re: Ladies...do you feel invisible?

Sounds like you just want to get laid more. So go find some 18 year old boys and take a few of them home with you. They will NOTICE you. And since women in their 40's are in their sexual prime, and men at 18 the same, then it should be a perfect fit.

Problem Solved. You're welcome.

"You" as in Lavagal or "you" as in women over 40? Regardless, that was a rotten comment, Tim. I, like anapuni808, tend to stay away from replying to anything you write but this one was just downright misogynistic (at most) and stupid (at least).

[timkona]

Re: Ladies...do you feel invisible?

Well Tutu, just saying what others were thinking. Kill the messenger !!!

[lavagal]

Re: Ladies...do you feel invisible?

Well Tutu, just saying what others were thinking. Kill the messenger !!!

So people are thinking my writing this column indicates I need to get laid? I'm certainly not invisible to my husband, and I am not trolling for teenagers. Still, it's enlightening to get this kind of feedback from the "messenger."

[AbsolutChaos]

Re: Ladies...do you feel invisible?

Well Tutu, just saying what others were thinking. Kill the messenger !!!

Um, that's not what I was thinking! Who are the "others?"

[Adri]

Re: Ladies...do you feel invisible?

lavagal: I enjoyed reading your article. When I first started in the working world, I had some trouble getting some people (mostly older business guys not not entirely) to take me seriously and an older gentleman with whom I worked would tell me that it would get better when I got some gray hair. I do find I am less ignored workwise now that I've been doing this for a while. Of course, some of it is a function of becoming better known in the area in which I work but I do believe a little of it is no longer looking like a young woman. But in non-work situations, I do find that I sometimes feel invisible.

[tutusue]

Re: Ladies...do you feel invisible?

Well Tutu, just saying what others were thinking. Kill the messenger !!!

Reread my message below. I've emphasized something:

"You" as in Lavagal or "you" as in women over 40? Regardless, that was a rotten comment, Tim. I, like anapuni808, tend to stay away from replying to anything you write but this one was just downright misogynistic (at most) and stupid (at least).

Ok...now let's try this again...in plainer English...
I killed the message.
I referred to your comment as rotten. It was and still is.
See the words "write" and "this one" in the emphasized part of the quote above? I thought so.
Do you see me calling you, Tim the messenger, rotten, misogynistic or stupid...such as "you are a rotten, misoynistic and stupid person"? I didn't think so.
You're welcome.

Um, that's not what I was thinking! Who are the "others?"

Do ya think he meant the other...guys?!!!

[Keanu]

Re: Ladies...do you feel invisible?

Perhaps I am the one to blame. I was the first to throw out the "sexual prime" comment (in a kidding way) so I apologize but I honestly do often find women in their 40's to be appealing (I don't mean in a purely physical way either) and not at all invisible.

[oceanpacific]

Re: Ladies...do you feel invisible?

Perhaps I am the one to blame. I was the first to throw out the "sexual prime" comment (in a kidding way) so I apologize but I honestly do often find women in their 40's to be appealing (I don't mean in a purely physical way either) and not at all invisible.

I will also assume some of the blame. I was only trying to make fun of myself as a "late-comer" in the facts of life (already on a downhill slide when I started).