please help...I'm doing bad in school

[Pua'i Mana'o]

Re: please help...I'm doing bad in school

Thanks a lot man for the advice. Yea...I'm very disappointed right now. I came to final conclusion that I'm just don't have it, whatever it is.

Anyway let's forget about this and focus on where I'm right now. I have 2.0 or lower like 1.8 Gpa, which depends on how well I did in summer session. So if I want to transfer to UH, I need 2.8 GPA? and 26 credits? So how well do I have to do on next semester in order to bring it up to 2.8 or wherever it is to go to UH. I have enough credits but GPA is the problem.

Shredder, you are swallowing some jagged little pills right now, which I am a fan of doing, because it is during the sucky times that we forge our own spines. In this respect, I am very glad for you that you are experiencing that which you are! After all the whinging, pissing and moaning, we come to a point where our reflection in the mirror screams "ENOUGH!!" and we do something about it. And I happily trust that such a scream will not elude you.

My husband got his AA degree by the skin of his ass. He has never been one adept at book learning. He doesn't trust himself to speak formally in front of a crowd. Until today his eyes glaze over when he sees their math homework.

But the tree fruits faster when under stress, and he was no different. He was in the army reserves for 20 years and it was the military that gave him his opportunity to define for himself what sort of man he wanted to be. It weaned him off of his parents (something for which I will *always* be grateful). It gave him self-respect. It gave him a trade, which led to the trades that ultimately put him where he is today.

It is ok to feel sorry for yourself. We all do it at some point of our lives. But the goal is to develop the tools to stop feeling that way...and then learning how to shake it off when those blues set in again.

And I tell you this right now: you are young. If you don't learn how to shake those blues RIGHT NOW, it is going to set in and become part of the very fabric of you, and next thing you know you are in your 20s and 30s and beyond, diagnosed with long-term depression and never being able to nurture yourself past your nature. Your tree is young NOW. Stop willing upon yourself depression. Get going on a plan B and fixate on something at which you can SUCCEED.

Make yourself a winner, Shredder! Good luck, kid.

[Kuewa]

Re: please help...I'm doing bad in school

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[Kuewa]

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[SouthKona]

Re: please help...I'm doing bad in school

Seeing an advisor is the best way for me now.

An hour later:

So how well do I have to do on next semester in order to bring it up to 2.8 or wherever it is to go to UH. I have enough credits but GPA is the problem.

Again, you definitely need to see that counselor, and mention that you tend to ask the same question over and over, but the answer does not sink in.

[Shredder]

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Well.... First you are "dead"; then just "slapped in the face and getting hit and stuff like that"; then not really abused but just have some "extremely mad" parents; and finally you are fully supported financially by your parents in your effort towards a higher education.

Take the advice others have given to immediately see an academic counselor to help with your classes, and relay to your parents that you are having difficulties with your courses but seeking help at the school.

And show some gratefulness and tell your parents that you appreciate their willingness to support you and pay for your college education. Thanks to your parents, you have an opportunity that many others do not get.

Thanks a lot man for the advice. Yea...I'm very disappointed right now. I came to final conclusion that I'm just don't have it, whatever it is.

Anyway let's forget about this and focus on where I'm right now. I have 2.0 or lower like 1.8 Gpa, which depends on how well I did in summer session. So if I want to transfer to UH, I need 2.8 GPA? and 26 credits? So how well do I have to do on next semester in order to bring it up to 2.8 or wherever it is to go to UH. I have enough credits but GPA is the problem.

[SouthKona]

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Changing my story?? How explain

Well.... First you are "dead"; then just "slapped in the face and getting hit and stuff like that"; then not really abused but just have some "extremely mad" parents; and finally you are fully supported financially by your parents in your effort towards a higher education.

Take the advice others have given to immediately see an academic counselor to help with your classes, and relay to your parents that you are having difficulties with your courses but seeking help at the school.

And show some gratefulness and tell your parents that you appreciate their willingness to support you and pay for your college education. Thanks to your parents, you have an opportunity that many others do not get.

[tutusue]

Re: please help...I'm doing bad in school

Hmmm...as this story unfolds it appears grades are the least of the problems and those problems are beyond the sphere of HT. I'll watch from the sidelines!

[Shredder]

Re: please help...I'm doing bad in school

Courses like Eng 22 and Math 24 and Math 25 are credit classes but they don't count for transfer credit to a 4 year school like UH Manoa, UH Hilo or UH West Oahu. On the other hand these course might count for an AA degree (depending on the degree).

Exactly, that's what I said.

SouthKona, basically it means that my parents CAN get little too rough when it has to do with GRADES. Now how does that has to do with changing stories? Besides, I was talking about my grades with manosurfer, not about my parents.

[damontucker]

Re: please help...I'm doing bad in school

Courses like Eng 22 and Math 24 and Math 25 are credit classes but they don't count for transfer credit to a 4 year school like UH Manoa, UH Hilo or UH West Oahu. On the other hand these course might count for an AA degree (depending on the degree).

from my recollection from working with the articulation committee as a student rep in 97...

anything under 100 level would not be transferrable and also would not apply to a degree... however things may have changed.

[helen]

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I first went to KCC when I started college. I was taking those non credit classes to BUILD UP my level to 100 for English and Math. When I first went to college, my level wasn't at 100 in English or Math. So I took Eng 22 and math 24 and 25.

Courses like Eng 22 and Math 24 and Math 25 are credit classes but they don't count for transfer credit to a 4 year school like UH Manoa, UH Hilo or UH West Oahu. On the other hand these course might count for an AA degree (depending on the degree).

[damontucker]

Re: please help...I'm doing bad in school

Get off the computer already...
go tell your parents you sorry you never live up to their expectations...cry... do what ever it takes...

then go back to your room... get off the internet and start studying in advance for the classes that you have coming up

[Shredder]

Re: please help...I'm doing bad in school

Well, you do tend to change your story:

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Changing my story?? How explain

And no, my parents never went to college

[SouthKona]

Re: please help...I'm doing bad in school

Do you think I'd play a game at time like this?

Well, you do tend to change your story:

My parents want me to go to a four year univeristy or I'm dead. Simple as that. I have NO choice man. Whether I like it or not means nothing. I have to go. I'm forced to go or I'll be kicked out for sure.

No not that kind of dead. Dead like getting slapped in the face and getting hit and stuff like that.

My parents aren't really abusive. It's just that they get extremely mad when it has to do with the grades.

My parents [financially] support me.

[damontucker]

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shredder...

Ok... I now see you are serious about getting your education...

I feel I do have qualifications to make some serious recommendations now that you have revealed the level of credit level you are taking.... Being that I got paid to advise Community College students about their chosen major...while at HawCC.

First off... I want to apologize for sounding so gruff on you... I wasn't sure if you were out shredding the surf or shredding us for advice.

I now realize that you are probably serious about your problems... and I hope that I can advise you the best that I can.

Being that you are/were still taking remedial courses...do your parents understand that?

Have you been honest completely with your parents from the beginning...regarding your first placement scores when you placed into those classes... at that time.. you must have known that it was going to take you a little longer.

Honesty is a key component here and if you didn't tell your parents from the beginning that it was going to take you longer than they expected... this leads you to where you are at now...

So before I go any further... after you got your initial placement scores which placed you into those classes...did you explain to your parents what that meant? And I still have not gotten a response to whether your parents attended college or not... there is stats out there that show that children of parents that didn't attend college...also do not attend.... just wondering?

[Shredder]

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you keep answering your own questions!

If they weren't even credited classes then why you taking chemistry? Hello? you playing games with us?

I first went to KCC when I started college. I was taking those non credit classes to BUILD UP my level to 100 for English and Math. When I first went to college, my level wasn't at 100 in English or Math. So I took Eng 22 and math 24 and 25.

I'm taking chemistry because it's required course for liberal arts.

Do you think I'd play a game at time like this?