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    Spouse and I don't carry cell phones. We're not Luddites; we just think the hassles outweigh the putative benefits. We have too many bad Navy memories of them, too many dead zones on Oahu, one more piece of gear to care for, and not enough perceived value to the expense.

    Up until now it's been a personal choice, but society appears to be imposing its new behavior upon our standards. We may end up getting cell phones just to be able to avoid cope with what seems to be new etiquette.

    Here are some new examples we've noted over the last year or so:
    - Who's calling, please, how come your name's not on my caller ID? Whaddya mean, you don't have caller ID?!?
    - Hi, it's me. Whaddya mean "who", check your caller ID. What, you don't have caller ID?!?
    - You know my number, it's on your caller ID. What, you don't have caller ID?!? Hang on a minute, let me try to figure out my number. Can I just call you back?

    - I'm calling you from your driveway to let you know that I'm here. But you saw me pull in and you'd already started for the front door, so now you can go back to the kitchen to pick up your (landline) phone to learn it's me calling from your driveway, and then you can come back to the front door again. It's a new game called "duck in a shooting gallery".

    - I'm not going to leave a coherent message. Just call me back at my long-distance cell phone number. Whaddya mean you don't have free long distance?!?

    - Don't tell me your address, just text it to me and I'll look up the driving directions on Google maps. That way I don't have to listen to you reading me your address or even remember what you're telling me.

    - Can I borrow your phone? I can't find mine and I need to call it. Gee, I hope I left its ringer turned on.

    - Excuse me, my battery just died, what time is it please? Well, duh, I can see you're not wearing a watch, but why don't you check your cell phone? Whaddya mean you don't carry a cell phone?!?

    - I don't have a plan for our upcoming socializing, so I'll just call you when we're finally on the road. You should wait there by your landline until I'm ready for you.
    - Oh, just call me when you're 10 minutes away and I'll dash over there to meet you. No, why would I know if there's a pay phone near there?
    - I know you've been waiting for an hour, but I called when I was supposed to be here to tell you I'd be late and you didn't pick up. What do you mean, you don't carry a cell phone?!?

    - You're not important enough for me to spend my time at home or at work talking to you on the phone, but when I'm on a long & boring drive then I'll call you to relieve my tedium.

    - I don't want to talk to your voicemail, so I'm going to call you over and over again until you pick up. What do you mean, your family shares this landline and your ringer is turned on?!? Can't you get your company (or your parents) to buy you your own phone?

    - This movie is boring, so I'm going to play with my (lighted) cell phone and brighten the lives of my fellow audience members. Oh, and check out my new ring tone!
    - Well, this conversation is boring and I don't want to make eye contact with you, so I'm going to play with my cell phone and find something more interesting to occupy my attention.

    - Oh, I didn't want to talk to you, I just accidentally hit redial.
    - Oh, I'm not talking to you, I just sat on my phone and it redialed.* So I guess it's actually my butt that's calling you.

    - I know I'm in the middle of paying the cashier, but my cell phone just rang. Hang on; you'll enjoy hearing this conversation.
    - I know we're driving and the light just turned green, but my cell phone is ringing.
    - I don't need a grocery list! I'll just call you when I can't remember what I'm supposed to buy.

    - I know I'm in the middle of a meeting, but my cell phone just rang.
    - I know I'm talking to you, but my cell phone just rang.
    - I know I called this meeting and I'm in the middle of lecturing talking to all of you, but my cell phone just rang.

    - "Hello there, it's 11 PM and we don't know each other, but someone accidentally left their cell phone here and your phone number is the last call they made. Can you tell me who it is? Whaddya mean, you don't have caller ID?!? If you remember who they are, could you call them for me and tell them they left their phone here? Oh, right, I guess this cell phone is the only number you have for them, haha, sure. Well, have a good night!"

    - People used to think I was nuts when I wandered around talking out loud, but now when I stick this thing in my ear everyone thinks I'm having a phone conversation! I didn't even put batteries in it!

    - I'm too busy doing other things on my cell phone to bother using it for phone calls. Besides, nobody calls anybody anymore-- we just send texts.
    - I can't handle a call plan that only allows 200 text messages a month. Why, just arranging our last meeting took over 50 of them!

    - 21st-century disclaimer: The iPhone's default e-mail signature of "Sent from my iPhone" absolves me of all responsibility for spelling, grammar, and punctuation.

    - And finally, people's reactions to their cell phones ringing during "intimate moments". Let's just not go there.

    *This did lead to a very entertaining Bangkok evening with shipmates gathered around a cell phone speaker when a guy (on independent operations at a bar) didn't realize that his butt had called us to livecast his bar girl pickup techniques...
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    I don't do cell phones. Too expensive and not worth the bother.

    I hate being called when I am away from home or office.

    I don't like paying for incoming calls from anyone. I don't want minutes/quotas being taken up by telemarketers, wrong numbers or spam text messages.

    I hate the whole concept of always having to pay for x amount of minutes per month.

    I hate people who live in the same city as me but use cell phones that require a long distance call. I never call them.

    I don't have caller ID on my landline and I am fine with it. I don't call anyone that requires me to preface my call with *82.

    I long ago blocked caller ID when the phone company first offered that option.

    I never drive using a cell phone because I never owned one! The new cell phone laws do not adversely effect me.
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    We have one cell phone (simple prepay type, so simple a caveman can use it) that my husband carries. I only carry it when I have to travel off island.

    No one knows our cell phone number. We carry it only for emergencies... or when we want to order pizza.

    We don't have caller ID on my landline.

    At work, I've often had to stay on the line for ten minutes or more, helping callers find my office: "So, I'm at the corner of ----. Do I turn or go straight? OK, now there's a cemetery on my right, am I on the right street? OK, I'm at your building... I'm in your parking lot... I'm walking down the hall... here I am, ta daaaa!" Yes, that actually happens.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mel View Post
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    I don't like paying for incoming calls from anyone. I don't want minutes/quotas being taken up by telemarketers, wrong numbers or spam text messages.

    I hate the whole concept of always having to pay for x amount of minutes per month.[...]
    Mel, this isn't aimed at you because I know your life works just fine without a cell phone. This is just an FYI for all HTers...

    There are now unlimited cell phone plans so the dislikes you list above are no longer a monetary issue with the right plan. I don't think I've received any telemarketer calls or spam text messages on my cell. My cell enabled me to get rid of the expense of my bundled HawTel service at Makaha thereby saving money. I replaced DSL with mobile broadband and the combo of unlimited cell minutes, free long distance and mobile broadband is still cheaper than the HawTel bundle. I rarely text but unlimited texting is also included in my cell plan as is web browsing...altho' I don't have a smart phone because I'm not interested, yet, in that capability. But it's available, should I change my mind, without a rate increase.

    The downside to dropping my landline at Makaha? Arriving there and realizing I left my cell phone and mobile broadband modem on my desk in town!!! Had to head right back into town. And on that trip back my car started acting up. I had no cell and felt extremely vulnerable. Lesson learned! Oh, and mobile broadband isn't anywhere near as good as DSL but it's adequate for my needs at Makaha, when house sitting and when spending the day in my mechanic's waiting room!

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    Iíve never owned a cell phone. I just never wanted to be bothered (literally and figureatively). In the past, I used to even disconnect my landline during vacations, and sometimes even on weekends (letting people know that it would be very difficult to reach me, of course). I actually have a mini phobia about phones. Whenever I hear one ring, it fills me with dread. Thatís true when at work, and even more so at home.

    However, I do see the convenience of having a cell phone for certain occasions, like having one in your car for roadside emergencies, or when you go hiking. So Iíve been thinking of finally giving in and getting one, but I would only want one for making calls, not receiving calls. That begs the question: do I drop my landline?

    And I donít have caller ID. Then again, maybe thatís why a ringing phone fills me with dread.

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    I started carrying a cell regularly when I was self- and un-employed, so potential employers could reach me at any (reasonable) time. I still carry it because I am rarely in my office - usually in a studio instead, so it's a better way to reach me directly.

    It's only turned on when I am away from home: during the workday, in transit to/from work (walking or on the bus, NOT driving), anticipating making connections with the Alpha Female, visiting friends, etc. That's it. At home, it's off and placed on a shelf. At concerts, out for dinner, etc., it's with me but off. We still have our landline at home.

    I have a daughter who lives 2000 miles away, and is expecting; it's nice to know she can reach me, if she needs to. When it's on, it's ALWAYS on vibrate, never an audible ring (think about it - I'm in a radio/recording studio...) It's a nice tool to have now, but I'm not "important" enough for it to be a critical item. Even though it's on during the day, I get maybe one call a week, and maybe make one or two a week.

    My phone doesn't do photos. I can probably download ringtones, but since I prefer "vibrate," it doesn't matter. I can't browse the web with it. I guess it's what Alton Brown would call a "uni-tasker."

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    More of a safety tip rather than etiquette, but,.....

    If you have a child in school who brings his/her cell phone and they call you to call the office during a school lockdown to find out what is going on, don't call unless it is absolutely necessary.

    School offices aren't telemarketing centers. Most only have 1 or 2 outside lines. A bunch of parents calling the school merely out of curiosity could end up tying up the phone lines and preventing an important call from coming through, like the police or fire dept.

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    My cell phone allows me to be employed, but not have to be sitting in an office all day. My cell phone is a tool that allows me to work, but still make all of my children's school events, attend all of their performances, and attend their after school sports competitions. My boss knows that I am just a phone call away, and that if really needed I can be easily reached. For me, my cell phone allows me the freedom to be a great employee while at the same time be a great parent.

    And before someone asks, I keep my ringer on "vibrate" so as to not disturb others during performances, etc. And, if I need to talk, I quietly ask the caller to "hold on a minute" and I leave the populated area, going to where I can talk without disturbing others. Matter of fact, sometimes I simply answer the phone by connecting to the call and not saying a word, and then walk outside, before I ever even say "hello".

    My cell phone is not evil. My kids love that I can be working but am just a call away. My boss likes that I can take time away from my desk but am still available if needed. Win-Win for me.
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    I resisted getting a cell phone for a long time, but when I started traveling a lot I finally caved, because trying to find a pay phone in a strange city during an emergency is too stressful. Since I live alone, there's no point paying two phone bills, so the cell phone became my primary phone. I kept my Ohio phone number when I moved to Hawaii so that my mom, who doesn't have free long distance, would still be able to call me.

    However, I do have certain rules about cell phone use. I'm an iPhone geek, and I love my various apps, but I won't play with my phone when I'm supposed to be spending time with other people unless they too are also playing with their phones. I won't take calls when I'm with someone else unless it's important, and I don't like to talk on the phone around other people, such as at the bus stop. And I definitely don't talk on the phone in the bathroom, that's just gross.

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    Quote Originally Posted by tutusue View Post
    There are now unlimited cell phone plans so the dislikes you list above are no longer a monetary issue with the right plan.!
    None of the plans I have ever seen were not somehow connected to minutes, and definitely all are tied to a contract of some sort and more expensive than just a basic landline where you don't ever have to think about minutes, quotas, contracts or whatever for a local call.
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    i know a lot of people don't like it when others talk on their cell phones in public. that doesn't really bother me... i can usually tune it out, unless they are talking too loud.

    what bugs me is when i am helping a client in my workplace, and they insist on taking a call. i don't mind if they just want to check who it is, or if it's short, but many will conduct a lengthy business call and expect me to wait. sometimes, i just sit there and stare at them the whole time, and other times i will walk away. i've also interrupted a couple of people, told them to leave and come back when they're ready, since there are others waiting that require my service.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mel View Post
    None of the plans I have ever seen were not somehow connected to minutes, and definitely all are tied to a contract of some sort and more expensive than just a basic landline where you don't ever have to think about minutes, quotas, contracts or whatever for a local call.
    I saw a commercial last nite for Verizon that showed a nationwide, unlimited talk plan for $69.99. Since i'm already on a similar plan with AT&T, I didn't check it out but others might want to.
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    Quote Originally Posted by anapuni808 View Post
    I saw a commercial last nite for Verizon that showed a nationwide, unlimited talk plan for $69.99. Since i'm already on a similar plan with AT&T, I didn't check it out but others might want to.
    AT&T just came out with a new plan a few days ago. Unlimited minutes, texting, email, and web use. My husband is going to put us on that one- I just asked him about it to verify the details. He uses his phone as his work phone also, so he eats up minutes like crazy, and we have a friend who is also on our plan.

    I've had a cell phone for almost 10 years. I talk on mine in public. I do not speak loudly by nature, and I do try to keep my voice down so as not to bother others. But I see nothing wrong with talking to a friend or my parents when doing various things such as sitting in the common outside area between classes, waiting for a flight in the airport (I sit away from others on purpose), or sitting outside a CVS in my car while I'm waiting on an Rx. I get on the internet all the time while waiting at the doctor's office or someplace else where speaking is not appropriate, but never at the movies or church, etc.

    I hate not having my phone on me. There have been countless times when I have used it in emergencies (such as getting a flat in the middle of the night and not having a spare- which was not my fault, BTW), and yes, used it for directions. I would have never found anything on Oahu without it! But I won't answer calls when I'm with people. That is the height of rudeness.

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    Quote Originally Posted by anapuni808 View Post
    I saw a commercial last nite for Verizon that showed a nationwide, unlimited talk plan for $69.99.[...]
    In addition, Boost has an unlimited plan for $50.

    Back on the etiquette topic...close to 20 years ago when cell phones were still fairly new, not to mention big and clunky, I was in a real estate seminar when an attendee's phone rang. He was in the front row directly in front of the teacher. The idiot actually answered it and proceeded to talk while the teacher was talking. After a few seconds, teacher stopped and stared at the guy...as did the rest of the attendees. Idiot didn't even notice so teacher, at the top of his lungs, ordered idiot out of the room. Idiot exited via the back of the room, talking the entire time. When he finished his call he took his seat like nothing happened. Teacher asked him to leave. We all cheered!

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    Quote Originally Posted by anapuni808 View Post
    I saw a commercial last nite for Verizon that showed a nationwide, unlimited talk plan for $69.99. Since i'm already on a similar plan with AT&T, I didn't check it out but others might want to.
    Quote Originally Posted by tutusue
    In addition, Boost has an unlimited plan for $50.
    My landline is $14.40 for the basic charges and with the nasty taxes and fees added it is $26.72, which is still way less than the $50 quoted above.

    Plus I don't need the mobility, don't get many calls, don't like being bothered when I am away from my primary phone and don't like the possibility that someday all mobile phones (if they don't all have em) will be able to track your location via GPS.

    Surely the landline is anchored to one address, but when I roam around my community I don't have a GPS tracking where I am going. My car is old so I don't have that in it either.
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    I had an opportunity to travel to Japan for business/pleasure and rode on the bullet train. I found it striking when there were signs posted that cell phone use was not permitted in the train cars, however, smoking was allowed Also, restaurant dining does not permit cell phone use.

    Personally, I use 2 cell phones - one for work (company issued blackberry)and one for my personal use. It's cumbersome to carry 2 phones, however, I prefer to keep my personal call record private from corporate. Having a work phone has allowed me to reduce my minutes - good thing. Compared to my wife, I am the main user of minutes/cell use, but I dread the day when the kids get of age to have one - ohh the texting bill . My 8 yr old daughter has already mentioned that some of her friends already have cells. Yikes! What's wrong with these parents

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    Quote Originally Posted by mel View Post
    My landline is $14.40 for the basic charges and with the nasty taxes and fees added it is $26.72, which is still way less than the $50 quoted above.

    Plus I don't need the mobility, don't get many calls, don't like being bothered when I am away from my primary phone and don't like the possibility that someday all mobile phones (if they don't all have em) will be able to track your location via GPS.

    Surely the landline is anchored to one address, but when I roam around my community I don't have a GPS tracking where I am going. My car is old so I don't have that in it either.
    well, Mel - looks like you are the last person in the world who needs a cell phone. good for you! I also don't really like any phones and use my cell very rarely - only when I have to. I also don't call folks "just to say hi". Maybe that means I'm anti-social but thats just the way I am
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    Quote Originally Posted by mel View Post
    None of the plans I have ever seen were not somehow connected to minutes, and definitely all are tied to a contract of some sort and more expensive than just a basic landline where you don't ever have to think about minutes, quotas, contracts or whatever for a local call.
    I have Mobi's Unlimited Everything plan..."Never count minutes again. Days. Nights. Weekdays. Weekends. We don't care. It's all unlimited." It's now $47/mo with auto bill pay; $50/mo without it. I currently pay approx. $53./mo with taxes & fees.

    And...no contract:
    "welcome to unlimited wireless calling. no contract. no credit check. no catch."
    I signed nothing but a credit card receipt and a rebate form for the phone.

    And Boost boasts..."This is this ultimate option if you want it all without being tied down by a contract. With unlimited talk, text and web, you can stay in touch any way you want, any time you want." That plan is $50/mo.

    You're correct that a landline is cheaper but this thread is about cell phones. And, as I acknowledged in post #4, we know you're happy without a cell. We're just correcting information by sharing the newer, cheaper, no contract plans even tho' it's off topic for this thread.

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    I love cell phones. Had them since the mid 80's when they entered the Hawaii market. Been with Verizon since it was called GTE Mobilnet.

    Having a cell makes it easier to adjust plans if and when they change. Allows me to get away from the home when waiting for an important call by not having to hang around.

    Case in point, I pick up two of my younger kids first then my older one right after that at another location three miles away. So I'm picking up the two kids then get a call from my wife that one of my two younger kids has a parent teacher meeting she forgot to tell me. I call my older son and tell him to catch the school bus to the other kid's location and wait for a short while until the meeting is over. He wants to go to the mall so the bus drops him off there.

    The parent meeting is over but there is an event happening at the school and my kids want to check it out. I call my wife who is now finished with work and tell her to call my other son at the mall to be picked up and meet us at McDonalds for dinner. I go to the event with the two younger kids, my wife picks up my older son and they decide to go to Pizza Hut instead. She calls me and tells me the plans have changed and to go to Pizza Hut in half an hour. Ten minutes later she calls me and tells me to reroute to another Pizza hut because the one they were to meet us at was closed for some reason. We go to the right Pizza Hut and have dinner.

    If we didn't have cell phones, life would have been more frustrating that day.

    I was at Honolulu International Airport the other day coming back from a Lion's meeting at JAIMS in Hawaii Kai. I was using the Kiosk to get my e-ticket and realized I didn't have my Hawaiian Airlines Confirmation code with me. While standing at the Kiosk, I call my wife and she pulls it up on her computer at work and recites it to me. I enter it in on the Kiosk's touch screen and viola! Out pops my e-ticket. Couldn't have done that with a pay phone as quickly.

    Cell phones serve a purpose for those who have intertwined lives with others. My elderly mom's car broke down on the highway. She calls me telling me she needs help. I hop in my car and call a tow wagon to hook up my mom's car. I get there five minutes before the tow wagon. We put her groceries in my car, I take her home while the tow wagon hitches up with instructions to take it to our home.

    I realize it probably would be better to tow it to my friend's home who fixes cars, so I call my friend and he says go ahead. I pull out the tow wagon's cell phone number from his business card and call him as we're driving to my home. I tell him to redirect to my friend's home where he will receive the car. I tell him I'm going to continue to my home before the hamburger spoils. He continues to my friend's home, I bring my mom to our home, unload her groceries and relax.

    The response and redirect was so quick, my mom was home and her car in the garage within an hour with her and her car separated by over 30-miles.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jake's Ohana View Post
    ... but I dread the day when the kids get of age to have one - ohh the texting bill . My 8 yr old daughter has already mentioned that some of her friends already have cells. Yikes! What's wrong with these parents
    Let me recant on that one.

    We resisted getting our kid a cell phone for years. The day she landed a part-time job (age 14), she took herself to the AT&T store and bought her pay-as-you-go cell phone. We parents made sure that she was still contributing most of her salary to her Roth IRA and then just shrugged our shoulders. Crazy whippersnappers gotta make their own mistakes to learn these things for themselves.

    I see a cell phone as a grownups tool for getting work done, perhaps for making life easier (perhaps not). However for teens it's become an essential social tool. It's not just the gossip, angst, & drama. It's also the impromptu study group that meets after school, the project group swapping data from the physics lab, photos for the school newsletter, the video of the demonstration for part of the grade on the senior project, and the change in plans for the next meeting of the National Honor Society.

    After watching the improvement in her life, we realized that a monthly cell phone bill is just another expense of doing well in school-- no worse than the cost of a tutor or school supplies or athletic gear. It's not absolutely necessary but it certainly gives a kid a leg up.

    With her iPhone Internet access between classes, she's even more productive on homework & projects (and scholarship applications!). When the study group has research questions, websites & answers are just a few clicks away. And because Shazam has an iPhone app, the teachers don't even play "Stop The Music" for extra credit anymore.

    Now that she's 17 years old and driving, we parents have gotten awful lazy. She maps out the directions for family outings, checks traffic reports, drives us there, looks up barcodes on her iPhone app, takes photos for comparison shopping, checks website prices, finds the nearest fast-food place-- the list goes on & on. I don't even have to put on my reading glasses.

    But we only subsidize the first 200 texts/month. After that she's on her own...
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    my 14-year old has had a cell phone for about a year now. Would I get one for my 12-year old next year? Probably not. Like my kids, one can't group all teenagers or children as one incompetant group. My 14-year old has very little use for a cell phone but he is a social creature and does go out with his friends.

    He has been raised with an attitude that cell phones can enhance once's efficient use of time management and uses it only if he has to call us that he will be late or needs to be picked up at another location. His friends also know that of his use of cells so they don't bother chatting with him because he'll only cut them off in mid sentence and tell them to continue their conversation when he gets to them in person. He's boring and they eventually stop the calls themselves.

    My 12-year old on the other hand loves to tinker and I'm afraid he'll take a cell phone apart given the opportunity.

    How one raises their children and how they inform them of the use of cell phones will guide them into how they eventually will use these devices.

    I don't have a problem with my kids having cell phones at all. They don't abuse them and they know if they do, it's gone. Only one child had a problem with cell phones and that's because I failed to communicate to him effectively. Once the message got out to him, he's good now with cell phone use as an adult.

    With responsible use of cell phones under their belt, proper manners follow, so they don't need to be reminded about when it's right to answer or make a call.
    Life is what you make of it...so please read the instructions carefully.

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    I think if parents educate their children on the correct ways to use cell phones (such as the examples given above), manners will get better with time. Now that I think about it, I don't see as many people having loud conversations as I did five years ago. Definitely not as many as ten years ago. Cell phones aren't the novelty they once were. "Now I'm calling you from my car! Now I'm calling you from the mall!"

    There will always be people who don't care about anyone except themselves, but I think there have been so many stories written about phone etiquette, rules and laws banning them in certain places/situations, and friends and family members just flat out saying, "You're being rude," that the problem is lessening and will continue to get better. And at least texting is quieter- provided the phone is on silent.

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    Is there a difference when a person holds up a finger or a whole hand to signal I see you, but I'm on the phone now?
    You can't press the plastic pop up terminals when you want the person to hang up or yank the phone cord anymore. So, you have to make like SNL Andy Sandberg and just throw it to the ground.
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    Quote Originally Posted by tutusue View Post
    You're correct that a landline is cheaper
    And that is the bottom line for me.

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    I really hate it when you're talking to someone and your call drops. That is a bad thing about cell phones. You know how some companies offer free upgrades every so often? Well, for a few years, my husband kept taking them for himself even though my phone was a total POS. It was all crackly and I could barely hear anyone. One of our friends had an old phone he gave me, but it still sucked, so I did this to it. Jason was so embarrassed to be seen with me in public when I was talking on that, he quickly gave me the next upgrade! Ha!
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