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Actually I do have a question...
Sorry, have not been here in a while. We went on a long vacation.
Any way, my personal question is..
I have a cousin which I will change his name to "John Doe",
Anyway, him & his wife ("Jane Doe") was married for a while (in short of a long story), now divorced (living in separate island).
The wife calls me for help, & she was really crying & scared, & sounded real.
So, I defended her (as a woman), & understood her fears. She stated that my cousin kept calling her & harrasing her etc.
She wanted me to tell him to stop because he wouldn't listen to her anymore.
I told her to not pick up the phone, & I told my cousin to not call her & to talk to her. Later it happened again (because his calls are blocked), & I told her, that if she is that scared to just change her land line & cell phone phone #.
The next day, I talked to my cousin about what had happened, & what she said about him & he told me that she was just acting, & I felt like I was the bad guy in all of this.
I felt like he thinks I didn't side with him, the fact that he's my cousin (& blood is suppose to be thicker than water etc.).
I talked to my mom, & in short, I was also made to feel that I should have sided with my cousin.
Maybe should have made her known: "that it can't be true on what she said about my cousin", & should have sided with him.
Now, I feel like he (my cousin) still mad at me, & I should appolagize?
I do love my cousin (one of many), but he has been in a hospital before, but now is out (limited with a time curfew), & it is easy for me to point figers at him, the fact that sometimes I think he is not working with a full deck, so to speak. (but I would trully like to feel that he is doing better).
I don't want to give you the wrong impression of him, but I think is still not well, & have not worked out his own issues.
Should I just move on? Not worry about it? is it all of his own doing?
No matter what, I feel pretty bad that I sided with someone that is not my own family, but at that time, I felt that it was real!. I looked at it from a woman's point of view, & also saw her fears, I hope that she wasn't playing with my feelings (& that it was all a fake) just to side with her & to make my cousin mad at me etc.
Yes maybe I shouldn't gotten involved, but, if there was a woman crying in fear, I just felt like I needed to help. If I declined to help, I would also feel bad that I didn't make a difference to help her out.
What is anyone's thought in this???
Maybe I shouldn't have picked up the phone at all??
I'm sorry to put this on you, but It has really been bugging me & I don't know what to do about it.
It short of it all, I'm wrong if I do (take action), I'm wrong (feel bad) if I don't. UGH!!!.
By the way, she hasn't called back since the other day or so. I still feel like crap & junk!.
Actually I do have a question...
Sorry, have not been here in a while. We went on a long vacation.
Any way, my personal question is..
I have a cousin which I will change his name to "John Doe",
Anyway, him & his wife ("Jane Doe") was married for a while (in short of a long story), now divorced (living in separate island).
The wife calls me for help, & she was really crying & scared, & sounded real.
So, I defended her (as a woman), & understood her fears. She stated that my cousin kept calling her & harrasing her etc.
She wanted me to tell him to stop because he wouldn't listen to her anymore.
I told her to not pick up the phone, & I told my cousin to not call her & to talk to her. Later it happened again (because his calls are blocked), & I told her, that if she is that scared to just change her land line & cell phone phone #.
The next day, I talked to my cousin about what had happened, & what she said about him & he told me that she was just acting, & I felt like I was the bad guy in all of this.
I felt like he thinks I didn't side with him, the fact that he's my cousin (& blood is suppose to be thicker than water etc.).
I talked to my mom, & in short, I was also made to feel that I should have sided with my cousin.
Maybe should have made her known: "that it can't be true on what she said about my cousin", & should have sided with him.
Now, I feel like he (my cousin) still mad at me, & I should appolagize?
I do love my cousin (one of many), but he has been in a hospital before, but now is out (limited with a time curfew), & it is easy for me to point figers at him, the fact that sometimes I think he is not working with a full deck, so to speak. (but I would trully like to feel that he is doing better).
I don't want to give you the wrong impression of him, but I think is still not well, & have not worked out his own issues.
Should I just move on? Not worry about it? is it all of his own doing?
No matter what, I feel pretty bad that I sided with someone that is not my own family, but at that time, I felt that it was real!. I looked at it from a woman's point of view, & also saw her fears, I hope that she wasn't playing with my feelings (& that it was all a fake) just to side with her & to make my cousin mad at me etc.
Yes maybe I shouldn't gotten involved, but, if there was a woman crying in fear, I just felt like I needed to help. If I declined to help, I would also feel bad that I didn't make a difference to help her out.
What is anyone's thought in this???
Maybe I shouldn't have picked up the phone at all??
I'm sorry to put this on you, but It has really been bugging me & I don't know what to do about it.
It short of it all, I'm wrong if I do (take action), I'm wrong (feel bad) if I don't. UGH!!!.
By the way, she hasn't called back since the other day or so. I still feel like crap & junk!.
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