Re: Seeking Local Advice
Good point. That is pretty much why I started this thread. It was my attempt in asking questions. I appreciate your advice and from all that have posted and will take it to heart.
Originally posted by craigwatanabe
One thing I've noticed with brash people is that they get really pissy with things they themselves are so intimidated by. Ultra macho guys afraid of finding their "feminine" side take it out on gay guys. Same goes for women who have to denigrade other women just to make themselves a cut above.
In other words some people like to lower the playing field below them because they can't seem to rise above it. It's easier to criticize others than to improve yourself. Believe it or not they are more intimidated by you than you are of them, so they play the bully card just to scare you first.
Be proud of your culture but don't be overbearing about it. I know a Mexican guy here in Hilo who is so proud of his heritage that he cannot see why locals are so pissed off at him when he does the, "In Mexico we don't have that problem because we're better than you," attitude. Who wouldn't?
Here in Hawaii we have pretty much adopted a wide range of cultures that ultimately came out "local style" or a mix of a lot of ethnicities in which some work and others don't.
One thing I learned when I was in Idaho for four years was to speak softly and ask questions. Nobody likes a loud obnoxious person. I found myself being accepted faster than when I was this local boy from Hawaii proving to all in Mountain Home, Idaho that Hawaii was No Ka Oi and the rest of the world was a distant 2nd.
And don't compare your culture with ours. Oh man that's sure to get another opinion out in the conversation real quick. You came to Hawaii for a reason, you left your other residence for a reason too. Some try to bring those reasons why they left, here to Hawaii and soon they become the problem they were trying to get away from.
When I moved from Honolulu to the Big Island, I found myself saying stuff like, "I'm from Honolulu" to the locals here. The look I got back was, "so what...that makes you better than me?"
Now being here for almost 2-years, I loathe when someone from Honolulu looks at me in the eyes and says, "In Honolulu this and in Honolulu that..." I respond with, "Yeah yeah and that's the reason why I left Honolulu after 44 years of that crap." You in Hilo now, leave Honolulu back on Oahu and enjoy this island for what it has to offer.
Speak softly and ask questions...remember you were attracted to the islands for a reason...time to be a student and learn our culture. Pretty soon you'll discover that Hawaii isn't as complicated as the rest of the world and you'll fit in sooner than later. Heck I did that and soon all of my Idahoan friends accepted me for all of my "less than red-necked" deficiencies and the last three years in Idaho was a fun and enjoyable place to be in.
Now if this full-blooded Japanese from Hawaii could walk into "The Oregon Trail" Saloon complete with swinging bar doors and be greeted warmly by my Arian Nation buddies... sipping on their Budweisers while their Ford F-150's sit outside guarded by their hound dawgs and their 12-guage shotguns sit in their gunracks...I think you can acclimate yourself to Hawaii as well.
When in Rome...
In other words some people like to lower the playing field below them because they can't seem to rise above it. It's easier to criticize others than to improve yourself. Believe it or not they are more intimidated by you than you are of them, so they play the bully card just to scare you first.
Be proud of your culture but don't be overbearing about it. I know a Mexican guy here in Hilo who is so proud of his heritage that he cannot see why locals are so pissed off at him when he does the, "In Mexico we don't have that problem because we're better than you," attitude. Who wouldn't?
Here in Hawaii we have pretty much adopted a wide range of cultures that ultimately came out "local style" or a mix of a lot of ethnicities in which some work and others don't.
One thing I learned when I was in Idaho for four years was to speak softly and ask questions. Nobody likes a loud obnoxious person. I found myself being accepted faster than when I was this local boy from Hawaii proving to all in Mountain Home, Idaho that Hawaii was No Ka Oi and the rest of the world was a distant 2nd.
And don't compare your culture with ours. Oh man that's sure to get another opinion out in the conversation real quick. You came to Hawaii for a reason, you left your other residence for a reason too. Some try to bring those reasons why they left, here to Hawaii and soon they become the problem they were trying to get away from.
When I moved from Honolulu to the Big Island, I found myself saying stuff like, "I'm from Honolulu" to the locals here. The look I got back was, "so what...that makes you better than me?"
Now being here for almost 2-years, I loathe when someone from Honolulu looks at me in the eyes and says, "In Honolulu this and in Honolulu that..." I respond with, "Yeah yeah and that's the reason why I left Honolulu after 44 years of that crap." You in Hilo now, leave Honolulu back on Oahu and enjoy this island for what it has to offer.
Speak softly and ask questions...remember you were attracted to the islands for a reason...time to be a student and learn our culture. Pretty soon you'll discover that Hawaii isn't as complicated as the rest of the world and you'll fit in sooner than later. Heck I did that and soon all of my Idahoan friends accepted me for all of my "less than red-necked" deficiencies and the last three years in Idaho was a fun and enjoyable place to be in.
Now if this full-blooded Japanese from Hawaii could walk into "The Oregon Trail" Saloon complete with swinging bar doors and be greeted warmly by my Arian Nation buddies... sipping on their Budweisers while their Ford F-150's sit outside guarded by their hound dawgs and their 12-guage shotguns sit in their gunracks...I think you can acclimate yourself to Hawaii as well.
When in Rome...
Good point. That is pretty much why I started this thread. It was my attempt in asking questions. I appreciate your advice and from all that have posted and will take it to heart.
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